When you come to a fork in the road, Your dating period is likely to be confusing and filled with conflicts and difficult decisions. Your confidant must be able to help you keep the facts clear and sort out any issues or questions that may arise. He or she will listen to your desires, wishes, doubts, feelings, goals, and hesitations.
After understanding your needs, the confidant will help you develop a single, prioritized set of clear and objective facts. Those facts will not be swayed in the future by your new feelings and emotions. He or she will then be able to help you decide in an objective manner whether a particular candidate meets your criteria.
That is correct. A good confidant will not help you select a spouse based on his or her own concepts of what is appropriate. A good confidant helps you sort out your own feelings. As a result, you will accomplish various goals:
Things should work out well if all of the facts are presented to the right confidant.
Unfortunately, some people are not suited to be confidants. They may not know how to help in a professional manner. They may not listen carefully, or they may not know how to deal with these issues.
If the confidant knows how to deal with the information that he has received, then he should help you make decisions properly. Of course, it is important to remember that you – and not the confidant – will make the final decision. You will decide whether to share your life with any potential partner. Nobody else can make that final decision for you.
take it
- Yogi Berra
Does the confidant know how to carry out the job?
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