If you make a left turn
from a right-hand lane,
you are probably
just careless or reckless
and not at all
what the driver behind
called you
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Be very honest and forthcoming when you share your feelings and desires with your confidant.

That sounds like an obvious thing to do. However, it may be more difficult than you think.

For example, in today’s world it is not politically correct to reject a partner with different external characteristics such as skin color.

However, you may not feel comfortable dating a person from a different culture, country or region of origin. You may have hesitations about dating from a different ethnic background (such as Ashkenazi or Sfardi). You may want to restrict your dating to a person who is fluent in your own mother tongue.

Therefore, you must be perfectly open with yourself and with your confidant when you select your partner for life. Yes, you may be very liberal indeed when choosing your friends, but a spouse is in a different category. Do clarify these feelings quite thoroughly, at least to yourself and to your confidant. Don't let others talk you out of acting on your own feelings in this area.

Indeed, not only should you evaluate your feelings with a thorough introspection, but you should be proud of them. You are entitled to live your life in the way that is best and most fitting for yourself.

You will certainly share issues relating to your dating preferences with your confidant. On the other hand, you may want to be prudent, tactful, and discreet about selecting which unpleasant feelings to discuss with your friends and acquaintances.