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When you select a mate for life is it important that you have unanimity among all the relatives? Is it important that everybody approves of and likes the partner that you've selected? The same as for your partner, is it important that all of the important people in your partner's life accept and like you?

Is it possible to receive unanimity from everybody who is involved?

Actually, when the question itself is posed, the obvious answer is that no you shouldn't even hope for unanimity. Give up. Don't even try. And perhaps there is justification to that approach.

The question is then how much you're going to have to compromise. Will you have to compromise on the number of people that disagree? Which people they are? The degree to which they disagree? Or other issues?

The truth is that you probably know that you're going to have to be the one to live with your spouse and not all of the others, so you're going to have to make the major decision.

On the other hand, if there are too many questions from too many important people, and those questions are too vociforous and too strong and it looks like it's going to create a family problem, then maybe you should look into it more seriously. Maybe you should rethink the proposition.

The fact is that you cannot ignore everybody. You can say that some people can be ignored, but you cannot reject everybody. You cannot reject your whole family or you will be taking the risk of being an outcast in the family.

That is why in advance it is a good idea to consider what other relatives, at least the important ones, will think, and perhaps to get to meet them early in the game before your commitment to each other becomes too serious.