Before making a decision about divorce look for the positive issues. Obviously, if the positive outweighs the negative then you would want to go for the positive, you would want to remain married and that is the goal - to find ways and reasons to remain married.

How does this work?

Although the amount of positive might not reach 50% you would have to consider the following facts: There isn't anybody who would reach 100% of what you want. The most that you could possibly achieve is several dozen percentage points or less. Let's say that what you would get that the best you could hope to get for would be 60-70% of what you really want. That means that 50% of that would be 30-35% of what you want or about a third.

Thus, if your wife right now meets a third of what you want then when we consider the differential, when we consider the calculation according to the most that you could get.

This calculation based on the differential is important. It does lower your standards but the standards are usually too high beforehand because they did not take into account the realistic differential between what you could have gotten and your current situation.

This calculation of what you have and what you could get is important because it tells you that if you divorce your current wife your divorcing would 51% more of what you really could get in a wife and that's a reasonable thing to expect and you should not strive for more.

Now if you take into account in addition to that the bother and nuisance and agony of a divorce you might even lower the percentage several more points to find a realistic level.