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The goal in life is stability. In order to have stability there are certain things that most people want to have. They go from one stepping stone to another. As long as that stepping stone is firm and solid, then they have stability. If it is not solid then they are not able to move ahead successfully. The first step in an adult life might be marriage, then having children, and having a good place of work which is solid and dependable. If a person has to move around a lot in work it might affect their stability. They have to keep looking for the right schools or yeshivas for their children. They have to get settled down again. It affects them from having a calm life and from accomplishing things that they want to do. They have to go and meet new friends and get into new social circles.

Similarly, if a person gets divorced then their life stops while the divorce proceedings go through and then they have to look for another spouse. This affects their stability as well and most people would prefer to not have this problem. In addition, they then have to deal with different sets of children and having to keep track of them and socialize with them. Their monetary resources are affected. If it's a man then he has to support his old wife in many cases with alimony as well as his newer family. If it's a woman then she may depend on the money from alimony and there might be difficulties receiving it. It affects everybody's stability in life, which means that they cannot move ahead.

A person who chooses to go on Shlichut, as an emissary for a Jewish, religious organization, may have difficult with stability as well. It may be hard to come back to their home country and set roots again.

A person whose job involves them moving from one place to another, such as a rabbi who has a limited contract may also have difficulty with stability for the same reason, and the more that they move around the less that the person feels after several decades that they are not moving ahead as they would want in life.

Stability is the key to doing the things that you really want to do. It means getting the standard regular issues out of the way and then going on to the things that you feel are the best for you. Writing books, helping mankind, giving an example of the right way to live, being involved in social or political or religious justice issues, and so on. These are the things that a person can do in order to leave a mark in the world. A person with stability can achieve these goals. A person who does not have stability may be able to achieve some of them but never as much as if he would been able to put aside all of his concerns for these basics and to get on with the things that are really important in life.

Similarly, a person who has reached a high office in politics or in any organization may have difficulty with stability. He may have to travel a lot. He may have to abandon his family for long periods of time. And he may have to devote himself excessively to his organization or company or political environment. In many cases the people have to make a decision between stability and climbing the corporate or political ladder.

It doesn't always pay off and it isn't always worth it.

Many people do put their career ahead of other issues in their lives. If this is the most important thing to them then so be it, but they are doing this and in doing this they sacrifice their familial stability. Nonetheless, if they go into this concept of making the job or the employment or the career the most important things in their life, then they should be aware that it is at the expense of other things which some people consider to be very important. If they decide to do it anyhow then they are going into this way of life knowingly, realizing what they are getting into. They are making an informed decision.