What should be done with the children during their quality time?

The actual content is not important, but it must be worthwhile. The activities should be a bit higher than the child's actual level. If the child is twelve, speak to her as if she is fourteen. Confide in her and speak about issues that are of importance to a child who is slightly older.

Children like to be treated as if they are big even if they are not ready for it.

by treating them like an older child you are also helping them grow up and moving them in the direction that you want. You are helping them understand what is expected of them when they reach that age.

You do this without giving them constant training but just by talking to them about things in a natural way for an older child. Since you are the only one who will be speaking to the child in that way, the child listens carefully to what you have to say.

Don't say, "When you are two years older you will do a particular thing." That will backfire. Instead, talk about the things that older children do now or the things that you did when you were a year or two older than your child, so that they may want to emulate your achievements and successes.

As the child grows older, keep raising the age and the description of what you did at that older age.

It makes a good impression, and you are directing the child in a kind, loving, and parenting way in the direction that you want to move him or her.

This method does not always work, because the child has other influences, drives, and forces, as well as her own personality. However, when it does work, it is extremely powerful.