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According to the research and according to the facts based on our discussions and in the field, children typically do not rebel against both parents, although that can be the case.

The usual, typical rebellion is against the father.

Very often the child will need something to trigger his rebellion. The rebellion was probably brewing for a long time, but he does need something or somebody to blame. So when the child decides that he has a suitable trigger, he will use that to point the finger at.

The trigger will usually be something that the father does.

If the father doesn't do anything worthy of a trigger, then the rebellion will still take place. However, the child will adjust the facts or package events that occur so that it will seem as if the father is really to blame. The father will, thus, be the victim of the child's accusations and it very often does not do any good for the father to explain that he is really not at fault.

After all, the child knows that he needed a trigger. The child knows that he engineered the facts in order to make them appropriate for his immediate needs. The child understands that the facts as presented have been modified or twisted. No explanation is really needed.

The father will then sometimes try to do things in order to terminate the rebellion. The father might apologize for something that he did not do in order to deal with the accusation. He might pay for something. He might find some other way to make the child happy and to accept the blame.

Sometimes this works in the short run and sometimes it doesn't.

All too often this situation backfires in the long run. The child learns that he can squeeze things out of the parents or out of the father by creating false accusations so the situation repeats itself.

Because of these facts some people believe that it is best to simply let the rebellion play its course and hope that it will be limited in time. The child does have the upper hand in the rebellion. The child does know that others are trying to win him over and the child does know that he can do lots of things in order to win over the parents unfairly at this time.

And the child does know that the father is particularly vulnerable. The child will always be able to find things to accuse the father of and to make the father feel guilty about doing or not doing things.

And if the child does not realize this by himself, then his friends will tell him.