You may not know how to deal with your child, so you may ask a professional to assist you. However, the intervention of a third party such as a psychologist will not always help.

After all, you now face a tug of war with your child. You express a need to do an activity that you consider to be proper, while the child's peers pull him in another direction.

Those peers sometimes respond to the issues that you or a third party may raise. As with any other tug of war, the child may fight those who support him the most.

Furthermore, the arguments presented by the third party may be countered by his peers, making him defend his actions even more strongly.

Clearly, a third party does not always help.

Furthermore, your child's peers may present ideas that are more powerful than you think. He has been currying favor with those children over an extended period of time. Your responses, ideas, and recommendations are not likely to be developed as well as those of your child's peers.

Granted, you may feel that your child's responses are confused, illogical, or that they lack common sense. However, your child does accept the peers. He does not necessarily observe the situation in an objective manner. This may affect the way in which your child relates to the issues presented by the intervening third party.