This page is still under construction.

Forget about the fairy tale stories about everybody getting back together again after a problem and living together happily ever after. We do need those fairy tales. It's good to be able to live in a dream world somehow. It's even good to have something to look forward to but it does not reflect reality.

If there is a need for reconciliation, that means that it was preceded by a problem, a problem that caused a rift or alienation and the two sides do not see eye to eye. This has to be corrected and changed and it usually cannot be completely changed.

In all too many cases the reconciliation is but partial. In other words, people have a better relationship than before the reconciliation, but certainly not a relationship that reflects what should be or what was before the problem existed in the first place.

Of course, there are situations in which there was a simple misunderstanding that was blown out of proportion and both sides were willing to listen and to change the situation and they turned it around. This does happen and everybody has heard of such cases. Those are wonderful.

If you are fortunate to be in that position, consider yourself to be one of the few lucky people who have experienced it.

But in most cases you can do little more than to expect not to