It is important to have a confidant in many areas. This has been discussed at great length in the discussion about dating.

A confidant of course, is very different from a person who itervenes as a third party in that the confidant has been selected by you, perhaps based on recommendation. The confidant knows you very well and you know and trust the confidant and you value the opinions of the confidant.

In this case, as with other cases, the confidant is not someone who knows everything and the confidant cannot give you advice in all walks of life and in everything. It is the confidant's job to tell you when you are asking a question that you should not ask, just as a rabbi or any other person whom you consult should tell you if they are the wrong address for the issues that you raise.

However, in areas in which the confidant does have an ability to help you, the confidant should definitely be used in the most complete way possible.

As with any other good thing the job of the confidant though is limited to the correct areas. The issues discussed with the confidant involve both facts and feelings and the confidant should take all of these into consideration when helping you come to a decision.

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