All too often, those who accuse others are guilty of their very accusation itself. Their accusations reflect an attempt to cover up their own inadequacies. They are trying to remove the perceived focus of the blame from themselves. They reason that you can't blame them as long as they are busy blaming you.

This is not always the case, of course. However, when somebody accuses you of something, then you should consider whether they are guilty of doing the very thing that they accuse you of doing. It may take the heat off you, and it may cause you to view the person with sympathy rather than with anger. He has just revealed a secret issue about himself.

Thus, the person reveals a great deal about himself by his accusation. He may not want to reveal a particular skeleton in his closet, but his accusation is doing just that.

A good (but dangerous) way to test whether this is the case is by confronting the person with the issue and questioning whether it represents his own limitations. Watch his reactions. The more defensive the person is, the more he is suspect of carrying out that action.