Our discussion in this section has two parts: the person who hates others in general, and the person who hates others in their immediate family. The treatment is as different as the circumstances.

Can the victim of hate in a family recruit others in the family for assistance?

Yes, but not in the expected way.

It is important for him to get them not to get involved and for them not to show any support or lack of support or any agreement or lack of agreement with the person who is making a problem. This is because support for the hate is not what the person really wants. It was just exhibited hate and wants to be corrected. Support for love is going to be fought because she is exhibiting the opposite. There is therefore no “correct” behavior for any member of the family to be exhibited to exhibit. Anything they do will be perceived in the wrong way and the member of the family will be considered the opposition or the enemy or in the enemy camp.

Clearly, the problematic person herself will have to come to her own conclusions at some point about how to behave unless she has an extremely understanding and intelligent psychologist or psychiatrist who has been able to get to her deeper understanding and feelings and who is continuing to work with her on a regular basis.

In some cases, barring such an exceptionally positive circumstance, the afflicted person may demonstrate hate towards the one member of the family who has tried to attract another part of another member of the family.

This may be incorrectly attributed to her dislike of one family member and lack of dislike for another family member or even a love for the other family member.

However, when these contrasting feelings are exhibited in a blatant sort of way in which it seems that she is trying to win over one side and at the expense of the other side then it is possible that another issue is at play.

It is likely that this person – possibly with the consultation and assistance of her friends – may be expert at dealing with the form of divide and conquer.

In this case she may not even want to divide and conquer but the people might be giving her suggestions again based upon her exhibited behavior which are the opposite of the behavior that she really would want to exhibit. What then can the person of the family do to help resolve the problem?

Surprisingly the answer is: nothing. Remember that we are dealing with opposites here. When dealing with opposites do the opposite. Thus, what you would think would help which is to express love, is going to be counter productive.