In some case a therapist may try to resolve inconsistencies in the person’s actions, speech, or statements. This is difficult, because the person does not want these inconsistencies resolved. These inconsistencies are there so that the helping person will say wait a second, you really don't want to hate. You want to love. This is your way of saying it.

As time goes on and as the exhibited and demonstrated height continues, several things can happen.

Firstly, the person might have no choice but to believe in the hate. After all she has been able to convince everybody around her that she really does hate.

She is going to have to exhibit and even strengthen her resolve to hate because she has already told so many people in authority about these feelings of hate.

She was crying out for help and the cries were the opposite of what she really meant. She wanted people to (somehow) understand this reversed meaning. When they didn’t, her feelings of frustration increased. She really had no place to turn.

She may say that nobody really understands her. However, she is even more frustrated when people try to show that they do understand her and try to accept her.