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In keeping with the philosophy embodied in this series of articles in which opposites are the same as identities. We may be able to make additional assumptions.

Psychology is based on sitting down and talking. Hate on the other hand is based on the refusal to sit down and discuss issues in a rational manner. It is therefore the opposite of what psychology stands for.

A person who hates is really quite similar to a person who loves. It really is. Thus a person who has a negative psychological condition and who expresses hate towards a certain person may indeed be trying to express love and may be reaching out to that person.

The situation therefore with hate is therefore much more positive if seen in this light than no contact whatsoever. A person who has a psychological problem who does require help and reaches out by expressing hate is asking the person the recipient of these feelings to respond in a way that will negate that hate and asking that hate be turned around into a response to the person’s need because the person is looking for a way in which to express herself.

Of course, this reciprocal expression of assistance, help, or even love can only help if the person in need who is expressing hate is acting alone.

In some cases that person is working in collaboration or with the assistance and support of others who do not understand the needs fully. In such a case they may be supporting the exhibited behavior which is hate rather than helping the person in need exhibit the feeling that they really want to exhibit which is understand, acceptance, or possibly even love. The person in need has a difficult situation under this circumstance. After all, she is exhibiting hate. The person who is supporting her does see that the feelings and the behavior exhibited are hate. The person supporting her therefore believes that she is actually helping by reinforcing the hate. The individual with the psychological problem cannot tell the person who is reinforcing her not to reinforce the feelings that she is exhibiting because after all she is indeed exhibiting such feelings.

On the other hand she is searching for someone who will tell her to stop exhibiting these feelings. Her real meaning is the opposite of what she is demonstrating but she has no means, tools, or method to express what she really has in mind.

In such cases, she may try the person in need may try to enlist the assistance of somebody else who might understand her more deeply as this person may be a rabbi, a psychologist, or psychiatrist in which case she hopes that the helping individual will understand what she really has in mind and be able to deal with it in order to reverse it which is what she really wants.

However, in all too many cases the support people do not understand the deeper meaning of the person’s call for help and accept the behavior at face value.

They are not opposites

Love and hate are not really opposites. They are not true opposites.

Since the nature of mankind defaults to hate, hate has a greater weight than love.

In addition, hate is always stronger than love.

That means that when you consider the relationship, it isn't a true opposite. It means that you can see two opposing sides of the issue, but they are not equal sides. The hate side is always much larger than the love side. It's always a struggle to create and to maintain love, on the one hand. On the other hand, hate is very easy to create and to maintain.

A true opposite would give equal weight to both elements, but this is not a true opposite.

Think about a see-saw in a playground. When you look at it it's simply a board on a fulcrum and both sides are made of the same material, very often wood; both sides have the same handle that weighs the same; both sides are the same thickness and length. So you can assume that both sides weigh the same. Now let's take two children and place them on the see-saw at opposite ends. One child is small. One child is very big. Although the basic mechanism should allow for perfect equality on both sides, the undeniable fact when looking at the real situation is that one side is much heavier than the other. That means that the side that is heavier is going to come down much more easily and it's going to take an effort to have the smaller child push himself down to the ground. In order to do that the weighty child is going to have to help. He's going to have to push himself up in order to help the lighter child push himself down.

That visualization brings us to the next element of hate. As the see-saw showed, it takes two children to create love, to work together, but it only takes one child to create hate or to be the element in control of hate. Most people don't realize this. When they think of the love-hate dichotomy they usually give out pat comments or answers such as "It takes two to tango." That is not really the case. In the case of hate only one has to tango and it works very well. Love, on the other hand, requires reciprocation.