Sometimes it is difficult to decide what to do and on what basis you should do things. Sometimes you may feel that there are good reasons to do something and also not to do the same thing. You're torn. You have a conflict.

One way to make a decision is to consider which option will be appreciated, which one will be appreciated more. Take the option, take the road of the concept that would be appreciated more.

This does not mean that someone has to give you a gift or a present to pay you or to show you appreciation. If they do that's fine or even if they give you a kind word, that would be fine. Of course, you know that that would be the path that would be appreciated.

But that is not always the case and sometimes you just have a feeling deep down about what would be appreciated and that feeling might be able to guide you to do the right thing. It might be more than simply intuition. You might know the recipient of your actions well enough to know which direction would be appreciated.

Yes, there may be cases in which you have to do some which might not be immediately appreciated but it's for the recipient's good. The dentist knows that the doing of the patient's tooth will not be immediately appreciated but in the long run it's for the patient's benefit because he will heal the aching tooth. In the same way you may sometimes have to consider what the patient would really appreciate and that may in some cases be different from the stated or demonstrated appreciation.

In other cases you may have to look at the long term results or the big picture. In order to understand which concept is better. In these cases your efforts might not be appreciated immediately but you know that you are doing the right thing.

Silence is a way also of ultimately working on taking a step that will show appreciation. The patient/client who is the recipient of your silence will initially be frustrated by your action. However, if the goal of your silence is to ultimately heal the person or direct the person in the right path then ultimately they will appreciate it, even though at the time appreciation is not being shown.

Thus, there are different levels of appreciation. Those that are demonstrated by the client or the patient, the recipient, in various way and those that are not demonstrated and those that seem to go against things in which the patient may feel that it goes against their better interest but in which you see things in a way that is different from the patient or you see the big picture and you are doing what it takes in order to make it better for that person.