The Strengths' of Womanhood
	No one says you have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger to be strong.
	Strength lies in knowledge, so the stronger you want to be, the more you have to leave yourself open to learn.
	Knowing it all usually means you know nothing, so in accepting your lack of knowledge, you make yourself open to learning. Every single person you meet can teach you something if you are willing. But you must always remain open to the opportunity.
	The Unrealistic views of what strength means.
	BIG subject. A little hard to carry with only a Web Site. But let's try.
	You know the old saying, the farther ahead we go the farther behind we get. Todays society, with all it's laws and practical advice for women, has actually created the weakest form of woman to date. In our chase to the top of the heap, we have become the heap. If there is any way to return to the strength of the pioneer woman without the bonds of limitations, we would have an unbeatable ability to not only survive, but to do it without the trappings of modern society.
	Strength is not beating down the competition regardless of the repercussions. It isn't lifting weights until every muscle is so perfectly formed we are walking sculptings, it isn't out screaming or out maneuvering every challenger in our lives...... it's a quiet thing.
	It comes slowly and quietly into your life giving you the ability to know when to move on and when to take a stand. But finding this strength within ourselves is not simple.
	Within every human being is the inane ability to make a total ass of oneself. And for some reason some of our species takes every advantage of this, and never asks why.
	Finding the power within to cope with life does not involve extreme emotions running out of control. Watch the tide, there is your strength. A gentle flowing pattern that can reach a roaring roll only to settle into a gentle pattern again.
	Witnessing one of my own gender throwing a juvenile fit to try and make a point is not only embarrassing, it is degrading. Throwing your weight around doesn't impress on the world how strong you are, only how sadly you are lacking in the ability to control your own life.
	This is neither submissiveness nor bulliness. This is the gentle fashion in which we were destined to move through our time. Control. If you are in an abusive situation, there are no excuses. Get out. Don't stand and whine. Look around you at the people that care and go to them, running. Don't stop, don't look back, don't regret. Get out as hard and fast as you can and then wash your face, your hair and scrub the contamination from your soul and move on.
	If you are the abuser, then STOP! No matter how many lies and denials you spew forth, your soul will always reflect the bitterness and cruelty within you.
	Nobody needs to tolerate the outlandish behavior of another. If someone in your life harms you, you are kidding yourself to think it will get better. I know no one wants to hear this but fact is, "relationships" are a dime a dozen. You are only one. Unique unto your self, your value is unmatchable. Once this reality hits home, you can find a piece of yourself you never knew existed.
	Total you.
	"Oh but I may get lonely!" Get a Cat. Or a Dog or a bird! Learn to give an unconditional love that has no price in pain. Once you come to peace with the fact that you can live your life alone and happy, you can make room for a healthy honest relationship that costs nothing, but still gives you room to grow. Never "become" what another wants you to be, and never lose sight of who you are and what you want. Once you do that, you've lost your soul.
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	Whether you are now angry or enlightened, I'm glad you stayed. And there is more! I will be adding articles daily, but again, I welcome your opinions. There is a vast difference in the way life appears at 16 and at 46 and at 86. But making the most of life, and realizing what quality in life means, should be a given. Let's advance to the level that existed many years ago, when women were the very backbone of building nations. Let's spend a little less time "recovering" and a whole lot more time activating. It works. If we make it work.
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