Edited / Created By: ChristyMW1@aol.com

 

The way to learn to do things is to do things. 
The way to learn a trade is to work at it. 
Success teaches how to succeed. 
Begin with the determination to succeed,
  and the work is half done already.
--J.N. Fadenburg

 

Hi guys!  Here it is, time again for another issue of the Game of Life.  It is November.  Thanksgiving.  I want to say "Thank You" to each one of you.  For your friendship and kind words you have shared with me over the past couple of years.  Thank you for opening your hearts to me and for allowing me to open my heart to you.  You are all special to me.  

Seasons Change.  I think of the old Bangles tune by that name.  You remember the one.  It is hard to believe that it has been 6 months since Sam and I broke up.  We were together just shy of 3 years.  I loved him deeply, but it is very true that sometimes love is just not enough.  Today I feel a peace... a contentment.  I am able to look back and know that I did everything I could, but it wasn't to be.  Each day I am stronger and wiser because of experiences I have been through.  I live life with no regrets, always willing to learn from what life brings.  Even when it IS bittersweet.

Mmmmmm...  I can smell Christmas-a-coming, with Thanksgiving sneaking in just ahead of it.  It's that "fasten your seatbelts, here comes the Holidays" time of year again. I love the Holidays.  Granted, Florida doesn't have Thanksgiving on a background of changing leaves (we have green and dead!) or a white Christmas (we had one in 1989 - you couldn't count it in inches - 'twas about 1 snowflake deep).  I want to have a REAL white Christmas one day.  Of course I'll have to get out of Florida to do it.  LOL.  I honestly have NEVER made a snowman - deprived I am! <eg>  I have made snow angels - Yes, I HAVE been in the snow, lol.  Snow skiing is one of my passions, though I haven't been in a couple of years.  Missing it!  =)

The Holidays are such a special time of year... beyond family, friends, and food.  Holidays are fun and enjoyable for sure, but I am drawn to the true meaning...I'll leave Christmas for the December issue...  

Thanksgiving. In the words of Abraham Lincoln, "We have been the recipients of the choicest bounties of heaven. We have been preserved, the many years, in peace and prosperity. We have grown in numbers, wealth and power, as no other nation has ever grown. But we have forgotten God. We have forgotten the gracious hand which preserved us in peace and multiplied and enriched and strengthened us; and we have vainly imagined, in the deceitfulness of our hearts that all these blessings were produced by some superior wisdom and virtue of our own. Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to pray to God that made us! It behooves us, then to humble ourselves before the offended Power, to confess our national sins, and to pray for clemency and forgiveness."

May each of you have a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving and Holiday season.  Please do not get so overwhelmed with the commercialism that the true meaning is forgotten.

Please start sending in stuff for the Christmas/December issue.

Lots of Love n Smiles, Christy
ChristyMW1@aol.com 

 

And Jesus said unto them, I am the bread of life:
he that cometh to me shall never hunger; and he that 
believeth on me shall never thirst.
John 6:35

 

Down Came A Blackbird
Lila McCann

Down came a blackbird
Sat on a fence
Talking in riddles
Making no sense
'Cause she's gone
Your baby's gone
Down came a blackbird
Perched on a post
Took out a mirror
And said, "Son behold."
'Cause she's gone
Your baby's gone

Gone like a dollar spent on a drink
Head hanging over the kitchen sink
Gone like the wind through a cabin door
Never gonna blow that way no more
Gone like the song of the mockingbird
Flapping at every little thing he heard
Gone like a dream in a puff of smoke
She ain't coming back and it ain't no joke
She's gone
Your baby's gone

Down came a black bird
Sitting by the fire
Said the future's coming at you like a freight train
And you're walking the wire
Cause she's gone
Your baby's gone

Gone like a dollar spent on a drink
Head hanging over the kitchen sink
Gone like a dream in a puff of smoke
She ain't coming back and it ain't no joke
She's gone
Your baby's gone

She said she doesn't want a man who hangs around the house
Who doesn't say a word unless he's shootin' off his mouth
There's got to be a better way to be a loving wife
If she stays here she'll end up his waitress for life

Down came a black bird
Sat on a bench
Talking in riddles
And making ABSOLUTELY PERFECT sense
'Cause she's gone
Your baby's gone

Gone like a dollar spent on a drink
Head hanging over the kitchen sink
Gone like the wind through the cabin door
Never gonna blow that way no more
Gone like the song of the mockingbird
Flapping at every little thing he heard
Gone like a dream in a puff of smoke
She ain't coming back and it ain't no joke
She's gone
Your baby's gone

Down came a blackbird
Down came a blackbird

 

 


From Susan909
Christy,  I am Thankful for........................ My Husband and son. My good 
health. Friends that mean so very much to me. All of the wonderful people I 
have met online. 

From LonEagle3
Hi Christy, This year I am thankful for many things. One of which is the wonderful friends that I have met over the last year, and those that I have known for awhile. I am thankful for my family and the wonderful blessings that have been bestowed upon us. This year has been a bit of a change of pace for me and I am glad that I have made it through it all. LOL One of the things that has happened to me is a new job. A job that pays significantly more than my previous employer and I work fewer days. This has allowed me to concentrate on my book that I am writing as well as it will allow me an opportunity to do something that I have wanted to do for a long time. Go back to school. I am also thankful that THE UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS BEAT texas tech THIS WEEK 58-7 Congratulations to the Big 12 South Champions U.T. Longhorns }:o Hook Em Horns! Can you tell where I will be going to school at in the near future? LOL.  John =)

From KB4avon
New Year's Plans/ What I'm Thankful For:
We live in Las Vegas, and my husband is a traffic systems technician for 
the county. He repairs traffic signals. Most of the guys at his shop HAVE 
to work on Las Vegas Boulevard (the Strip) on New Year's Eve. This year, 
since hubby is scheduled to work on New Year's Day, he's excused from having 
to work the eve. I'm very thankful for that ! Las Vegas is expecting a 
bizzilion people this year ! The strip is going to be crazy, and possibly 
very dangerous. It would be foolish for us to attempt going anywhere that 
night, so we plan to hide out at home. We'll order in from one of our 
favorite restaurants, rent a family type video, play some board games with 
the kids, and toast midnight with some sparkling cider. Oh.... we'll also 
have our party hats and noise makers ready !
~Kassie


   

 

 


Email Susan

It's that time again. The holidays. That means countless festivals full of food, family, friends and fun. And food.  Did I mention the food????????

Yes, it's food season. For weeks you'll be surrounded by mounds of mashed potatoes and pounds of pie that could tempt even the most dedicated dieter. Sure, the upcoming weeks are supposed to be filled with joy and cheer, but for those trying to lose weight, the holidays can prove exceptionally stressful. Besides the many magical meals we'll face, the extra hours spent shopping are sure to put a dent in any exercise routine.

Let's face it -- until that big ball drops in Times Square, it will be virtually impossible to focus on dietary perfection. That's why I suggest you relax and enjoy yourself this season. Give yourself permission to party. Don't stress about shedding pounds over the next few weeks. Modify your weight loss goals during the holidays, so that they are more realistic.

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BH&G Thanksgiving Survival Guide - cooking / recipes --
Everything you could ever want to know about cooking a turkey and all the trimmings is listed here.

Welcome to Butterball.com --Don't know a chopstick from a drumstick??? Join me here at this site. It explains everything cooking related.

November is National Diabetes Awareness Month.

Symptoms
The symptoms of diabetes may begin gradually and can be hard to identify at first. They may include fatigue, a sick feeling, frequent urination, especially at night, and excessive thirst. When there is extra glucose in blood, one way the body gets rid of it is through frequent urination. This loss of fluids causes extreme thirst. Other symptoms may include sudden weight loss, blurred vision, and slow healing of skin, gum and urinary tract infections. Women may notice genital itching.

A doctor also may suspect a patient has diabetes if the person has health problems related to diabetes. For instance, heart disease, changes in vision, numbness in the feet and legs or sores that are slow to heal, may prompt a doctor to check for diabetes. These symptoms do not mean a person has diabetes, but anyone who has these problems should see a doctor.

What Causes Noninsulin-Dependent Diabetes?
There is no simple answer to what causes noninsulin-dependent diabetes. While eating sugar, for example, doesn't cause diabetes, eating large amounts of sugar and other rich, fatty foods, can cause weight gain. Most people who develop diabetes are overweight. Scientists do not fully understand why obesity increases someone's chances of developing diabetes, but they believe obesity is a major factor leading to noninsulin-dependent diabetes. One of the reason is an association between obesity and insulin resistance, a major cause of diabetes.

Scientists are still searching for the causes of insulin resistance, but they have identified two possibilities. The first could be a defect in insulin receptors on cells. Like an appliance that needs to be plugged into an electrical outlet, insulin has to bind to a special receptor to perform its function. Several things can go wrong with receptors. There may not be enough receptors for insulin to bind to, or a defect in the receptors may prevent insulin from binding.

A second possible cause involves the process that occurs after insulin plugs into the receptor. Insulin may bind to the receptor, but the cells don't read the signal to metabolize the glucose. Scientists are studying cells to see why this might happen.

Who Develops Noninsulin-Dependent Diabetes?
Age, sex, weight, physical activity, diet, lifestyle, and family health history all affect someone's chances of developing diabetes. The chances that someone will develop diabetes increase if the person's parents or siblings have the disease. Diabetes is more common in blacks, Hispanics, American Indians and Hawaiians than whites. They believe this is the result of both heredity and environmental factors, such as diet and lifestyle. The highest rate of diabetes in the world is in an Arizona community of American Indians called the Pimas. While the chances of developing diabetes increase with age, gender isn't a risk factor.

While you can't change family history, age, or race, it is possible to control weight and physical fitness. Being at risk is not the same as having the disease. There are certain measures that can be taken to reduce your risk of developing diabetes.

Diagnosing Diabetes
A doctor can diagnose diabetes by checking for symptoms such as excessive thirst and frequent urination and by testing for glucose in blood or urine. When blood glucose rises above a certain point, the kidneys pass the extra glucose in the urine. However, a urine test alone is not sufficient to diagnose diabetes.

A second method for testing glucose is a blood test usually done in the morning before breakfast (fasting glucose test) or after a meal (postprandial glucose test).

The oral glucose tolerance can sometimes detect diabetes when a simple blood test does not. In this test, blood glucose is measured before and after a person has consumed a special liquid high in sugar. Normally, the glucose in a person's blood rises quickly after the drink and then falls gradually again as insulin signals the body to metabolize the glucose. In someone with diabetes, blood glucose rises and remains high after consumption of the liquid.

A doctor can decide, based on these tests and a physical exam, whether someone has diabetes. If a blood test is borderline abnormal, the doctor may want to monitor the person's blood glucose regularly. If a person is overweight, he or she probably will be advised to lose weight. The doctor also may monitor the patient's heart, since diabetes increases the risk of heart disease.

Treating Diabetes
The goals of diabetes treatment are to keep blood glucose within normal range and to prevent long-term complications. Why control blood glucose? In the first place, diabetes can cause short-term effects: some are unpleasant and some are dangerous. These include thirst, frequent urination, weakness, lack of ability to concentrate, loss of coordination, and blurred vision. Loss of consciousness is possible with very high or low blood sugar levels, but is more of a danger in insulin-dependent than in noninsulin-dependent diabetes.

In the second place, the long-term complications of diabetes are usually the result of many years of high blood glucose.Most doctors feel that if people with diabetes keep their blood glucose levels under control, they will reduce the risk of complications.

In 1986, a National Institutes of Health panel of experts recommended that the best treatment for noninsulin-dependent diabetes is a diet that helps the person maintain normal weight. In people who are overweight, losing weight is the one treatment that is clearly effective in controlling diabetes.

In some people, exercise can help keep weight and diabetes under control. However, when diet and exercise alone can't control diabetes, two other kinds of treatment are available: oral diabetes medications and insulin. The treatment a doctor suggests depends on the person's age, lifestyle, and the severity of the diabetes. Also see Alternatives below.

Diabetes Diet
The proper diet is critical to diabetes treatment, because it can really make a difference in controlling the disease.

A diabetes diet should do three things: achieve ideal weight, maintain normal blood glucose levels, and limit foods that contribute to hear disease.

The most important function of the diet is to help you achieve and maintain desirable weight. Many people with diabetes can control their blood glucose by losing weight and keeping it off.

The guidelines for diabetes diet planning include the following:

Many experts, including the American Diabetes Association, recommend that 50 to 60 percent of daily calories come from complex carbohydrates, 15 to 20 percent from protein, and no more than 30 percent from fat.

Spacing meals throughout the day, instead of eating heavy meals once or twice a day, can help a person avoid extremely high or low blood glucose levels.

With few exceptions, the best way to lose weight is gradually, one or two pounds a week. Strict diets must never be undertaken without the supervision of a doctor.

People with diabetes have twice the risk of developing heart disease as those without diabetes, and high blood cholesterol levels raise the risk of heart disease. Losing weight and reducing intake of saturated fats and cholesterol, in favor of monounsaturated fats, can help lower blood cholesterol.

For example, meats and dairy products are major sources of saturated fats, which should be avoided; most vegetable oils are high in unsaturated fats, which are fine in limited amounts; and olive oil is a good source of monounsaturated fat, the healthiest type of fat. Liver and other organ meats are particularly high in cholesterol.

Studies show that foods with fiber, such as fruits, vegetables, peas, beans, and whole-grain breads and cereals may help lower blood glucose. However, it seems that a person must eat much more fiber than the average American now consumes to get this benefit.

Exercise
Exercise has many benefits, and for someone with diabetes regular exercise combined with a good diet can help control diabetes. Exercise not only burns calories, which can help with weight reduction, but it also can improve the body's response to insulin. As a result, following a regular exercise program can make oral diabetes medications and insulin more effective and can help control blood glucose levels.

Exercise also reduces some risk factors for heart disease. For example, exercise can lower fat and cholesterol levels. It also can lower blood pressure and increase production of HDL ("good" cholesterol) that protects against heart disease.

Walking is a great exercise, especially for an inactive person, and it's easy to do. You can start by walking for 15 or 20 minutes, three or four times a week, and gradually increase the speed and/or distance of the walks. The purpose of a good exercise program is to find an enjoyable activity and do it regularly. Doing strenuous exercise irregularly isn't as effective. People taking oral drugs or insulin need to remember that strenuous exercise can cause dangerously low blood glucose and they should carry a food or drink high in sugar for medical emergencies.

Signs of hypoglycemia include hunger, nervousness, shakiness, weakness, sweating, headache, and blurred vision. As a precaution, a person with diabetes should wear an identification bracelet or necklace to alert others that the wearer has diabetes and may need special medical help in an emergency.

Oral Medications
Oral diabetes medicines, or oral hypoglycemics, can lower blood glucose. They are an option if diet and exercise don't work. Oral diabetes medications are not insulin and are not a substitute for diet and exercise. They work by increasing insulin production. These medications are most effective in people who developed diabetes after age 40, have had diabetes less than 5 years, are normal weight, and have never received insulin or have taken only 40 units or less of insulin a day.

Pregnant and nursing women shouldn't take oral medications because their effect on the fetus and newborn is unknown, and because insulin provides better control of diabetes during pregnancy.

Six FDA-approved oral diabetes medications are now on the market. Their generic names are tolbutamide, chlorpropamide, tolazamide, acetohexamide, glyburide, and glipizide. These are generic names. Some of these medications are made by more than one pharmaceutical company and have more than one brand name. All six are different types of one class of medication, called sulfonylureas.

The purpose of oral medications is to lower blood glucose. Therefore, the person taking them may have hypoglycemia if he is not careful about eating regular meals. Some medications taken for other health problems also can lower blood sugar and may react with the diabetes medicine. That’s why it’s important to let your doctor know that you are taking an oral hypoglycemic to prevent a harmful interaction. Lowering blood sugar too much can cause hypoglycemia with symptoms such as headache, weakness, shakiness, and if the condition is severe enough, collapse.

Like all medications, oral diabetes medications can cause side effects. They are nausea, skin rashes, headache, either water retention or increased urination and sensitivity to direct sunlight. These effects should gradually subside, but a person should see a doctor if they persist. For reasons that aren't always clear, sometimes oral diabetes medications don't do what they are supposed to. Investigations are under way to learn why this happens.

The most important side effect of these medications is an increased risk of cardiovascular mortality, in other words a risk of dying or a heart attack. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA), the agency of the Federal Government that approves medications for use in this country, requires that oral diabetes medicines carry a warning concerning the increased risk of heart attack. According to the FDA, there is a 250% increase in risk of dying from a heart attack.

Most doctors tend to downplay this warning, but you should at least be aware of it and decide whether it’s worth taking an oral hypoglycemic medication.

Insulin
Like oral diabetes medications, insulin is an alternative for some people with noninsulin-dependent diabetes who can't control their blood glucose levels with diet and exercise. In special situations, such as surgery and pregnancy, insulin is the only means of controlling blood glucose.

A person also may have to take insulin if his blood glucose fluctuates a great deal and is difficult to control. Various types of insulin are available that differ in purity, concentration, and how quickly they work. They also are made differently. In the past, all commercially available insulin came from the pancreas glands of cows and pigs. Today, human insulin is available in two forms: one uses genetic engineering and the other involves chemically changing pork insulin into human insulin.

Checking Blood Glucose Levels
When a person's body is operating normally, it automatically checks the level of glucose in blood. If the level is too high or too low, the body will adjust the sugar level to return it to normal. This system operates in much the same way that cruise control adjusts the speed of a car. With diabetes, the body doesn't do the job of controlling blood glucose automatically. To make up for this, someone with diabetes has to check blood sugar regularly and adjust treatment accordingly.

A doctor can measure blood glucose during an office visit. However, sugar levels change from hour to hour and someone who visits the doctor only every few weeks won't know what his blood glucose is doing on a daily basis. Do-it-yourself tests enable people with diabetes to check their blood sugar daily.

The easiest test someone can do at home is a urine test. When the level of glucose in blood rises above normal, the kidneys eliminate the excess glucose in urine. Glucose in urine, therefore, reflects an excess of glucose in blood.

Urine testing is easy, but not completely accurate. It's more accurate to measure blood glucose directly. Kits are available that allow people with diabetes to test their blood glucose at home. The test involves pricking a finger to draw a drop of blood. The drop of blood is placed on a strip of specially coated plastic or into a small machine that "reads" how much sugar is in the blood. Self blood glucose monitoring can show how the body responds to meals, exercise, stress, and diabetes treatment.

Another test that measures the effectiveness of treatment is a "glycosylated hemoglobin" test. It measures the glucose that has become attached to hemoglobin, the substance in red blood cells that gives blood its red color. Over time, hemoglobin absorbs glucose, according to its concentration in blood. Once glucose is absorbed by hemoglobin it remains there until the blood cells die and new ones replace them, which happens every 3 months. With the "glycosylated hemoglobin" test, a doctor can tell whether blood glucose has been very high over the last few months.

Related Links
Mediconsult.com : Diabetes, Diabetic Health and Medical Information -- This link has a lot of information for Diabetes specific information.

10/26: National Diabetes Physicians Group Describes 'Early Warning Sign' forComplications in type 2 diabetes.

American Diabetes Association -- Learn about Diabetes here and everything related to this disease.

STARBRIGHT Foundation --A link for Children with Diabetes. This site has some of the best resources I have ever seen on this disease and how it affects kids physically and emotionally. And it also teaches parents and kids coping skills. How to read labels, balance food, and how to read blood sugar levels.

CureShirts --Cure shirts were designed and created by the mom of a young boy who has juvenile diabetes. Check out this creative way to raise money for research. This mom is very dedicated to finding a cure.

November 18th is The Great American Smoke Out Day

THRIVE: Find a Smokefree Buddy!-- Need someone to help you quit smoking? find a buddy here on this message board.

OnHealth: Smoking Conditions A-Z--Visit this link to learn about smoking related conditions. Includes a list of topics.

Road to Success -- Stop smoking system.

THRIVE: Quit Smoking Program

Success Stories!!!
A few GOL readers share their desire to quit smoking and success in doing so!  This first letter is from my dear friend Lee. As you will read she and her husband Bryan have been successful with their attempt to stop smoking. Lee shares from her heart. They have been inspirational to many, and will touch you too.

Lee955@aol.com 
Bryan and I quit smoking on June 30, 1999 as a tenth year anniversary present to each other. The idea was his and not mine. Even though I knew that deep down in my heart and soul that I needed to quit, I just could not gather the strength, courage, and determination it takes to put that cigarette out for the last time. Bryan had come up with this idea many months before our anniversary and I agreed. We had both smoked for twenty some years. We both had a nagging cough. I at forty-four years of age could not walk across my front yard without having to stop and catch my breath. I knew that I had reached the point in my life where I needed to take control of my mind and my life. The real strange part of all this is that I had more difficulty dealing with the thoughts of quitting than the actual quitting itself.

My advice to anyone that wishes to quit, is to be determined more than anything else that you will not light another one! At 12:02A.M. on June 30, 1999 I put my last cigarette out. I vowed not to ever smoke again. Bryan got rid of all unused packs of cigarettes and put away all ashtrays. I really feel like that it helped me to have Bryan's support and friends that encouraged me. Yes, I used a patch for about ten days or so but, the biggest part of quitting smoking after you get over the nicotine withdrawals are psychological. I never realized just how much my smoking was just a habit of having something in my hands until I got up later on that same morning and came in here to greet my computer. There was this huge empty hole where my ashtray and soft leather cigarette case lay. It was as if a friend had left during the night without saying good-bye. Friend? This is no friend!! This is an enemy of my body and is slowly killing me! I was in shock for a minute or so. I gathered myself back together and immediately focused my mind on something else. You may think that I am silly for thinking this way but, I did whatever it took to win my first and hardest battle for I did most of my smoking right here in front of my computer. Then there came the first time I took my dog for a walk. I got ready and for about twenty minutes or so walked around the house trying to figure out what I was forgetting. I was looking for my cigarette case! I thought how silly of me! I am going into all of this because I was using the patch and was having no nicotine withdrawals. All of everything I was experiencing was strictly habit and mental.

My next battle was wanting to smoke when I became bored, angry, or frustrated. My only and best advice to give you is to take deep breaths and relax. As soon as I realized why I was wanting a cigarette, I dealt with my emotions and the issue at hand. Each and every battle becomes less frequent and easier to conquer. I am not promising you that the road is easy. What I will tell you is that there is help in the way of medicine and all sorts of buddy groups to join that can help you through some tough times. You will not die from quitting smoking.

Facing the people that you work with might add to the stress. I really believe that it helped me to have a couple of days off from work. Why add to your stress? You are dealing with enough already.

I really hope that this helps someone out there. Anyone that knows me personally can truly say that if Lee can quit smoking, anyone can!!!!

Thank you, Bryan for loving me so much that you wanted me to quit.  Thank You, Susan for all of your support for you are the best friend a person can have.  Good Luck!!!  

KSulli3297@aol.com  writes, "This is a great idea..cuz I am in the process of giving up smoking...I have decided that November 1 i will not smoke...So any hints,,tips etc encouragement would be great .."   Kim

Please send Kim a word of encouragement, I am so proud of her!

This is from Angel59361@aol.com --- Way to go Laurie! You are an inspiration.
I quit smoking 13 years ago. The times I missed it the most were: 1) with my morning coffee, 2) after eating Italian food (why, I do not know), and 3) after ... well, you know. Each time I grabbed a piece of Trident cinnamon gum instead. For me, this worked.

Even after 13 yrs of not smoking (and being grossed out by people who smell like smoke), occasionally I smell cigarette smoke and it still smells good to me. Once or twice I've cheated while out for an evening ... having drinks, etc., and 1) it didn't taste as good as I remembered and 2) the next day my mouth tasted HORRIBLE and it took a few days for that awful taste to go away.

You CAN do this!

Merrylano@aol.com  shares her success story with us.  
Hello!  I smoked for 34 years! Then my mother died of cancer, including lung cancer. She also was a smoker. Still when she died, I still didn't quit right away!  One day about a year later I was huffing and puffing back from my mailbox in the front of my house and I passed out! My daughter took me to the hospital to see what was wrong. Well, they took chest x-rays and he said my lungs were black! He said if I didn't quit smoking, I would have an oxygen tank on my back! He told me I had 2 choices, that I was an adult, and I could make the choice to throw my cigs away right now or go about this dying business! Well, my daughter didn't want to see me go thru what my mom went thru so I threw them away! I did latch rugs, anything to keep myself busy and tried to stay away from smokers! I am proud to say I have not smoked or had a desire to for 14 years! Thank God!

Thank you all for sharing your stories with all of us. I am amazed at your courage, your strength, your desire to get healthier. Each of you inspire me.

Healthy Kids

7 ways to get your kids to try harder.

There's no one quick trick to get your kids to apply themselves, but educators and psychologists have developed strategies for motivating even the most reluctant achievers. And guess what? Not one of them involves nagging or bribing. Here are some ways to help your child to do her best.

Tips 1-2
Rule Out Any Underlying Problems

"Most children are motivated by the mere prospect of pleasing their parents," says James Windell, a psychotherapist and author of Children Who Say No When You Want Them to Say Yes. "When effort drops, there's usually a reason."

It could be a physical, psychological, or learning problem, so check with your pediatrician and your child's teacher or guidance counselor. Then look at emotional issues: Is your child angry about something? Afraid of failing? Bored?

One way to find out is to ask: "I've noticed you've had a hard time settling down with your homework," you might say. "Can you tell me what's going on?" If that yields only an unrevealing "I hate it," talk to your child's teachers and other adults in his life.

Be Realistic
Are you focused on progress (your child is able to sound out more and more words) or performance (he's the best reader in the class)? "If it's performance, you're expecting too much," says Dorothy Kitchen, director of the Duke University String School in Durham, North Carolina. Innate and developmental abilities vary enormously from kid to kid. "Steady progress is the most any parent should expect," stresses Kitchen.

Tips 3-5
Let Your Child Have a Say

If she feels she has a choice ("Would you rather go to art school or soccer camp?") she'll put in more effort.

"Even if your child has an exceptional talent, you shouldn't try to force her to use it," warns Rick Wolff, a New York sports psychology expert. Says Wolff: You have a responsibility to tell her about her special abilities ("You have a lot of talent as a dancer"), to describe the kinds of opportunities that are open to her ("You could be a ballerina"), and to be honest about what it would take to excel ("You'd have to give up your other after-school activities and practice for several hours a day at least five days a week"). "But after that," says Wolff, "it's up to your child to decide whether or not to pursue her talent."

Explain Your Motives
What if you truly believe your child should stick with an activity — piano lessons, say — for his future benefit? Or you feel his reasons for wanting to drop chess — "None of my friends are in the club" — aren't persuasive? "Explain why you feel it's important," advises Richard Ryan, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester in New York, "and tell him that eventually he will get to choose."

And if you ultimately decide to let your child drop an activity, you may be surprised: "Kids often return to the things they're good at when they're a little older and have had a chance to explore other options," says Wolff.

Tips 5-7
Pour on the Positives

"Children who feel good about what they're doing usually want to do more," says Kitchen. "So give your child lots of praise." But make sure it's honest or your child won't trust you. "The secret is to be specific, and to focus on effort and progress," Kitchen emphasizes. Comments like "You really worked hard on that report about China" help a child appreciate her own accomplishments.

And look for her strengths and point them out. "The confidence of knowing she's competent in one area will translate to greater motivation in others," says Jim Wiltens, director of Deer Crossing Camp in High Sierra, California, and author of No More Nagging, Nitpicking, & Nudging.

Reward Wisely
"Children don't have long-term vision and can't always see the intrinsic value of what they're doing," says Windell. "A small reward can inspire them to start a new activity or keep them going when they're feeling discouraged or losing interest."

But use rewards carefully:  Offer a prize proportionate to the effort you expect your child to put in. As the behavior takes hold, replace the reward with verbal recognition. If you find yourself increasing the rewards, stop and regroup. Your child may fall into the habit of exerting effort only when he thinks he can get a prize.

Talk About How Much You Enjoy Your Own Work
If you come home complaining about the job, says Dr. Spevak, your child may begin to think, "If I work hard and succeed, I'm going to be as miserable as my mother is." To set a more inspiring example, save your grousing for your husband and friends, and tell your kid what you love about what you do. "You can mention the difficulties too, but emphasize what you did to solve your problems," advises Dr. Spevak.

This information was adapted from "Your Family" Archive

The 4 Worst Ways to Motivate
These fear-inducing or manipulative techniques may work in the short term, but their positive effects don't last.
1. Forcing or Punishing
"I don't care if you hate ballet. I paid for the class and now you're going."

Why It Won't Work: Though your child may appear to go along, her desire to try will vanish as soon as you're out of the picture.

2. Comparing
"Are you reading another X-Men comic? When your sister was 8, she went through at least one chapter book a week."

Why It Won't Work: It makes your child think he's a failure if he doesn't live up to some absolute standard of performance. It also won't do much for the relationship between your kids.

3. Reasoning or Lecturing
"You can't get into the advanced math group if you don't do better on your tests. And you won't do better if you don't start studying. So you need to forget about your Nintendo and get motivated . . . "

Why It Won't Work: Even if you don't raise your voice, this kind of nag-lecture comes across as yelling and makes a child think, "My parents don't care about me unless I succeed." Moreover, kids eventually learn to tune you out.

4. Criticizing
"You always strike out because you don't keep your eye on the ball."

Why It Won't Work: It emphasizes that the child is doing something wrong, which he probably already realizes, but it doesn't help him learn how to do it right.

"May an abundance of love, peace, and joy fill your hearts and home this Thanksgiving." Happy Thanksgiving, Susan, David, & Tigger

 

For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not
liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Gal. 5:13

 


Howdy Y'all,
Well, lookie here! Its national Turkey month! And NO this aint a month to honor yours truly. It is a month where we honor what was almost the national bird. Yep, that's right if ol Bennie Franklin had had his way we would be honoring a turkey on our coins instead of an eagle. I guess that would have meant we would be eatin Butterball Eagles on Thanksgiving. hmmmmmm. Not sure I could handle a roasted raptor. Well, it does have a certain ring to it huh? I wonder what it would taste like? Would it be similar to Perigean Falcon Pot Pie? I know that is pretty good! Or what about Grilled Spotted Owl with Orange Sauce? That of course is a family favorite. Of course one of my all time favorites is BBQ Whooping Crane. But, it is getting kinda hard to find em. They is becoming kinda scarce. In season I like Golden Cheek Warbler Shish-k-bobs. U know once u dress em out u can fit a whole herd of them lil suckers on a stick. Ifn you'll take a couple of Elephant Tusks and whittle em down into little bbq sticks for shish-k-bobbin they will cook your endangered species recipes all the way through.
Well, I guess it is a good thing after all that Ben Franklin didn't get his way on the National Bird controversy of 1780. Cuz Turkeys is much easier to get a hold of. At least down here in Texas u can hunt your own or you can be real sporting like and just reach down and yank one out of the grocer's freezer. Course that aint near as fun as chasin down your very own Thanksgiving DooDoo Bird, but, it is a lot easier. Y'all have a happy and safe Thanksgiving and we will see Y'all next month!

 

 

From:    SUSAN 909
CHRISTIAN ALPHABET POEM

gol1199_rb-A.jpg (1491 bytes)lthough things are not perfect
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gol1199_rb-C.jpg (1254 bytes)ontinue in thanksgiving
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gol1199_rb-E.jpg (1372 bytes)ven when the times are hard
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gol1199_rb-I.jpg (1014 bytes)magine life without His love
gol1199_rb-J.jpg (1183 bytes)oy would cease to be
gol1199_rb-K.jpg (1412 bytes)eep thanking Him for all the things
gol1199_rb-L.jpg (1167 bytes)ove imparts to thee
gol1199_rb-M.jpg (1496 bytes)ove out of "Camp Complaining"
gol1199_rb-N.jpg (1343 bytes)o weapon that is known
gol1199_rb-O.jpg (1301 bytes)n earth can yield the power
gol1199_rb-P.jpg (1214 bytes)raise can do alone
gol1199_rb-Q.jpg (1382 bytes)uit looking at the future
gol1199_rb-R.jpg (1431 bytes)edeem the time at hand
gol1199_rb-S.jpg (1368 bytes)tart every day with worship
gol1199_rb-T.jpg (1217 bytes)o "thank" is a command
ntil we see Him coming
ictorious in the sky
e'll run the race with gratitude
alting God most high
gol1199_rb-Y.jpg (1320 bytes)es, there will be good times and yes some will be bad, but...
gol1199_rb-Z.jpg (1334 bytes)ion waits in glory...where none are ever sad!

"Too blessed to be stressed!"

 

Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not
grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.
2 Cor. 9:7

 

 

 

From:    jwstahl@maysvilleky.net (Johnny)

Some people come into our lives and quickly go..
Some people become friends and stay a while..
leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts...
and we are ~never~  quite the same
because we have made a good friend!!
Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow a mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why it's called the present!

 

Open rebuke is better than secret love.
Proverbs 27:5

  

From Susan909:
Cranial.com - Will Hertes Prank Letters
Giving Thanks!
Audio Bible Online
The Three Trees

Keeping An Eye On My Friend.

AMERICA'S HOMEPAGE!! PLYMOUTH, MASS
Autumn 1999 

Fall

From Charlie409
Happy Thanksgiving
All About Thanksgiving 
Billy Bear's Happy Thanksgiving 

From KarenS8888
Thanksgiving On The World Wide Web 
^^^ LOTS of links ^^^

From LonEagle3
Holidays and Seasons ~ Thanksgiving 
A Little Dog Angel 

From: MTC4U2Day
Connecting Connectors

From Teddi2
Cook, Bake, Broil, Boil and Zap!

From Dbj310
Send this hug to all your friends!
TO EACH, HIS OWN 

From CYNDIE1@webtv.net
CALL A LOVED ONE

From Sprottn
Scrub Free Daily Shower Cleaner and Daily Shower Spray Recalled
As most of you know... I HATE chain letters and e mail hoaxes 
and I try to help anyone who asks me about a strange e mail...
there are several going around again that I want to share with you...
these are hoaxes and urban legends... please read about them 
and be informed... so you do not help to spread these lies...
Missing Child: Kelsey Brooke Jones - HOAX
Spiders in the Toilet! - HOAX
The Airport Blush Spider Hoax
Asbestos in Tampons? - HOAX
Backseat Killers & Ankle-Slashing Gangs - Urban Legend
The Celcom Screensaver / Sandman Hoax
F-Secure Hoax Information Pages: CellSaver
The 'AOL (IM) Instant Message' Hoax
The Honda (Free Car) Hoax
Internet / Email Tax Hoaxes
E-MAIL RUMOR COMPLETELY UNTRUE
The Procter and Gamble Satanist Hoax

From AH5605
(Evelyn has a wonderful NL... Click HERE for ore info)

free flying butterflies
GoCollect.com

Free Diabetes Info CD
103FreeSongs
Free WallPapers
Free CD from Dream Designer Dolls
State by State Guide To Rebates
Free Meatballs

From Lacyday
WOULD YOU HOLD ME??
Lacy's Site Index

From CallyKoKo
How is contradancing different from football ? : CLDMS Pittsfield, MA

From Make A Child Smile
Make A Child Smile

From MeandDG88
Go West PSP Tubes

From HuggunU
"27 Cent Smiles" 

From SWells1835
Microsoft "scriplet.typelib/Eyedog" Patch: 
Prevent the execution of Bubbleboy worm - ZDNet Software Library

From Alexgram1
Preston Paints & Quarters 

From NauteeNa
House Of Poetry

From The Editor:
Free Stuff and Trial Offers at Free2Try.com
The True Thanksgiving Story 
Not Just for Kids! An American Thanksgiving for Kids and Families 
Send a Verse-Card

 

Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written,
Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.
Matt. 4:10

 

Slow Dance More
Kenny Rogers

Grady Johnson was a common man
Four children and some bottom land
Early to bed he said that ain't me, 
Gotta spend some time with my family
Left to its own advice, May becomes June 
And children grow up way too soon

So, love your neighbor as yourself
Don't use money to measure wealth
Trust in God, but lock your doors
Buy low, sell high, and slow dance more

Mamie Johnson was Grady's wife
She bore his children and she graced his life
Hand in hand, side by side
They worked hard to simplify
Some folks have and some have not
What matters most is what you do with what you've got

So, love your neighbor as yourself
Don't use money to measure wealth
Trust in God, but lock your doors
Buy low, sell high, and slow dance more... 
 and more 

I think I understand
What my father's father meant when he said
"Son what matters most,
You can count on just one hand"

Love your neighbor as yourself
Don't use money to measure wealth
Trust in God, but lock your doors
Buy low, sell high, and slow dance more
Buy low, sell high, and slow dance more

 

"The world is a dangerous place to live;
not because of the people who are evil,
but because of the people who don't do
anything about it."
- Albert Einstein

 

No I am not sure about the other people, but sure enjoyed your site, gee, 
I spent hours going through it and chair dancing :))) loved the music :))) 
bubbly:) great site, you did a wonderful job my friend.

Just want you to know I love your newsletter!

I did want to tell you what a lovely website, I enjoyed going thru it.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Cyndie aka Cyndie1@webtv.net
Her Birthday is November 24!

From:    LegalWngs2@aol.com 
hi christy i cant remember if i told you but my 5th wedding anniversary is
nov 12th my hubbys name is Dan lol

From:    KSulli3297@aol.com 
I would like to have my daughter Lea's birthday on Novemeber 30th put into
the game of life...with maybe this little note..and her s/n is SmlznTrz@aol.com...  
Lea, To my firstborn..You have brought me nothing but joy and smiles and love the
last 11 yrs..I love you with all that I am.  ~Mom

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Cheryle - November 14 - CheryleAV@aol.com 

New Year's Plans
From LonEagle3
As far as New Years? Well, I am not sure xactly what my 
plans are as of yet but we have been thinking about 
going to the biggest party in Texas down on 6th street in 
downtown Austin and celebrate it with 145,000 new friends! 
Or, I could just stay at home and spend a quiet evening with 
my family. Hmmmm what a decision. I'll keep u up to date 
on this as we get a little closer to time.
John =)

THANK YOU for all the wonderful words!!  
Don't forget to send greetings to those having
a birthday or anniversary!

 

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: 
and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
Proverbs 9:10

 

Email Jackie

An honest man's word is as good as his bonds.
-- Cervantes

We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our 
hopes.
-- John F. Kennedy

Kind words can be short and 
easy to speak, but their echoes
are truly endless.
--Mother Theresa

Side by side, or miles apart, Friends are always close to the heart. 
--dbj310@aol.com

Spend your life any way you like, but remember you can only spend it once! 
--Reverend Leroy Gager

 

Make a list of all the gifts God has given you,
 giving thanks to God for each one. 
1 Thessalonians 5:18

 

From NauteeNa / Poems From The Heart:
It Takes Strength

It takes strength to be firm.
It takes courage to be gentle.
It takes strength to stand guard.
It takes courage to let down your guard.
It takes strength to conquer.
It takes courage to surrender.
It takes strength to be certain.
It takes courage to have doubt.
It takes strength to fit in.
It takes courage to stand out.
It takes strength to feel a friend's pain.
It takes courage to feel your own pain.
It takes strength to endure abuse.
It takes courage to stop it.
It takes strength to stand alone.
It takes courage to lean on another.
It takes strength to love.
It takes courage to be loved.
It takes strength to survive.
It takes courage to live.

Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge:
but he that hateth reproof is brutish.
Proverbs 12:1

 

From NauteeNa / Poems From The Heart:
If I Knew

If I knew
it would be the last time 
that I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly 
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew
it would be the last time 
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss 
and call you back for one more.

If I knew 
it would be the last time 
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew
it would be the last time, 
I could spare an extra minute or
two to stop and say 
"I love you," instead of assuming 
you would KNOW I do.

If I knew 
it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day, 
assuming you'll have so many more, 
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely 
there's always tomorrow 
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance 
to make everything right.

There will always
be another day to say our 
"I love you's",
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do's?"

But just in case 
I might be wrong, and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you 
and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance 
you get to hold your loved one
tight..

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret today,

That you didn't take that extra time 
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone, 
what turned out to be their
one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them
dear.

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"please forgive me," "thank you" or
"it's okay". 
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets
about today. 

 

Game of Life Staff:
Editor in Chief  <g> : Christy aka ChristyMW1@aol.com
"Healthy Living" : Susan aka Susan909@aol.com
"Down in Fuzzy Junction" : John aka LonEagle3@aol.com
"Question Of The Month" : Linda aka Linda1000@aol.com
"What's Cooking" : Doreen aka DoeRadQA@aol.com
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