Destiny

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Destiny was born on June 14, 1996. She was my third child and Chad's

second, and we had agreed that she was our last. Destiny was overdue for

delivery so my doctor had decided to induce my labor. We had no idea during

the pregnancy that anything was wrong. After she was born, without

complication, they took me away to my room and her to the nursery, Chad

came to my room after what seemed like a very long time. He told me there

was a problem with her and she was going to be life flighted to Salt Lake

City, about 300 miles away.

They were unsure exactly what the problem was. The doctors in S.L.C. at

Primary Children's Medical Center would be better equipped to care for her.

Chad flew with her to the other hospital. My doctor would not release me

until the next morning. It seemed the longest night of my life. I left the

hospital in the morning , a friend drove me home. I entered my home without

my husband or my new baby, it was all I could do to pack and get ready for a

family member to drive me the 4 hours to S.L.C. I arrived at the hospital

weak, tired and confused. My baby had a severe heart defect, but was in

stable condition in the newborn intensive care unit. The doctors explained

that a human heart had four chambers, Destiny's bottom two chambers were

not seperated and underdeveloped. Her blood was getting to mixed up and

not enough oxygenated blood was getting through her body. We stayed in the

hospital a agonizing week. But, she improved and without even having the

surgery the expected she would require.

We brought her home and she quickly became endeared to all our friends

and relatives. She had to see a doctor once a week. She required alot of

medication, but she was alive and growing, she was our little miracle. At

almost two months old she saw the cardiologist. He was concerned about her.

At two months old she was back in the hospital. This time surgery was

necassery. We spent another week in the hospital. After an amazingly short

recovery of 6 days she came home agian. She had a large scar down her

chest to remind us of the open heart surgery she had.

Only afew days after she was three months old, she woke up like usual and

began to eat. Then she began to cry and cough. I knew something was wrong

and went down stairs, were my husband was getting ready to leave for work.

I looked down at her face and her lips were blue and her eyes began to roll

back. Chad grabbed her and began CPR as i called 911. It did not seem that

long until they came and we were at the local hospital, but her heart had

stopped and they could not get the blood to flow through her body. They think

that a blood clot must have blocked the shunt they had put in only a month

before.

Here is a peom I wrote a few days after Destiny passed away.

God answers prayers

The day she was born She opened her eyes and cried

I thanked God and asked if I could keep her.

I thought He answered, yes.

When they took her away

And hooked her to all the plugs and probes

She looked so small and helpless

I asked God, can I keep her

I thought He answered, yes.

We brought her home and watched her grow

And saw her beautiful smile

I looked down at my soundly sleeping baby

And asked God if I could keep her

I thought he answered, yes.

At the hospital agian we were all so scared

To see her tiny tattered body swelled and hooked to tubes, agian

I asked, please God let me keep her

I thought He answered, yes.

Home agian and one morning

There was only shallow breath

And a call to 911

I looked at her bluing face

And I asked God, Please let me keep her

But, He quietly whispered, no.

by Lisa Barney

Here is a poem we had read at Destiny's funeral

To All Parents

I lend you for a little time

A child of mine,God said,

For you to love the while she lives

And mourn for when she is dead.

It may be 6 or 7 yrs. or 22 or 23

But will you, til I call her back

Take care of her for me.

She'll bring her charms to gladden you

And shall her stay be brief

You'll have her lovely memories

As solice for your grief.

I can not promise she will stay

Since all from earth return

But, there are lessons taught down there

I want this child to learn.

I've looked in the wide world over

In my search for teachers true

And from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes

I have selected you.

Now will you give her all your love

Not think the labor vain

Nor hate me when I come

To take her back again.

I fancied that I heard them say

Dear lord thy will be done

For all the joy the child shall bring

The risk of grief will run.

We'll shelter her with tenderness

We'll love her while we may

And for all the happiness we've known

Forever grateful stay.

But, shall the angels call her

Much sooner than we've planned

We'll brave the bitter grief that comes

And surly understand.

author Edgar A. Guest

The Music on this page is "Brush with Destiny"

It is an orignal Song by Songlion.

It is copyrighted by Meave and May Productions

and was composed in memory of Destiny, as a gift to her mom.

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