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Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother.
Two different lives shaped to make you one.
One became your guiding star. The other became your sun.
The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name.
One gave you talent, the other gave you aim.
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.
One sought for you a home that she could not provide.
The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied.
And now you ask me through your tears,
The age old question, unanswered through the years.
Heredity or environment. Which are you a product of.?
Neither, my darling. Neither.
Just two different kinds of love.
~Author Unknown~
Facts on Adoption from the National Adoption Clearinghouse
Our Page Three:
Not flesh of my flesh
Nor bone of my bone
But miraculously
my very own.
Never forget for
a single moment,
You didn’t grow
under my heart,
But in it.
by Fleur Heyliger
How should you introduce your child to relatives, friends and neighbors?
Adoptive parents often seek counseling on how to discuss their adoption plans with relatives and friends. What to say, how to say it and when, are some of the questions that emerge.
If the adoptive parents are themselves comfortable and confident about their decision to adopt, they will not experience much discomfort, or suffer inhibitions or embarrassment from the thought of sharing with relatives and friends their intention to adopt a child. One fear is that other people may form harsh opinions based on ignorance, and then try to discourage the adoption. This would be very disheartening to adoptive parents who are themselves ambivalent about their decision.
It is important to share your decision to adopt with your immediate relatives and close friends, because when people around you feel involved in the process, they might be supportive, and very likely accepting and welcoming to the adoptive child. A couple may choose to restrict the information they share. With attitudes becoming more liberal, society is becoming more accepting of adoption and it should be easier to share the joy of adoption with your friends.
Links:
Roots and Wings Adoption Magazine
National Counsel For Single Adoptive Parents
USA Adoption Resources by State
(State By State Listing of Agencies)
American Association of Open Adoption
Christian International Adoption