To all my dear friends that mean the world to me,
I cannot tell you
how important you are to me.
This month is so hard for me.
I know each of us are missing those no longer with us.
Our angels
Whether they were with us
for a minute
or born sleeping
or miscarried
or for Mere Months
or Mere Years
It was never nor will it ever have been long enough.
Our angels so sweet and so precious
they are all in my prayers.
Never allow your loss to be minimized,
never forget that your Angel was important
as were your dreams hopes and wishes for your ANGEL !!!!!!!!
My Friends I am taking
this time to thank you all
for all that you have done for me.
Please remember how wonderful you are.
The reason for our meeting
is heartbreaking
but has brought us a gift
in that we have a new family,
sisters in our hearts
and yet our ties are as strong
as if we were truly related
to each of you.
I want you to know the value of your love is
not something I can put into words
for they would all come up
very shy of how important you are to me.
Each of us who know the loss, the ache, the pain, the tremor of anguish in our lives because our angels have gone to soon
are Survivors !!!!
Thank You for being in my life
Thank You for Loving and and Caring For Me
I'm so glad you're in my dash...
I'm Glad You're In My Dash...
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning...to the end.
He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.
(1934-1998)
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth...
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars...the house...the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard...
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile.
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy's being read
With your life's actions to rehash...
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
Dear Mom's,
My name is Pammi and my angel would have been 16 this June.
I can relate to the crushing pain that you are talking about.
I remember very clearly the pain that crushed my heart after Benjiman died.
I remember the whispers and the glances that well meaning family members
and friends would give me.
I remember all the "it was for the best" I remember that they told me I needed
to be grateful
(of all things)
that he did not suffer long,
that even my own mother
said, "well hon except for the grace of god
you never need to have cope with a child who would never be well."
The bitterness and resentment
has been unbearable at times.
My mother is gone now
and her words that she meant as comfort still sting and burn
but now I want to say to all of you
we are all mom's
from the moment we concieved to the moment they were miscarried or born and left
our arms
to bloom in heaven!
All of us each and every one of us are all still Mommies
and nothing will ever change that.
It wont change in our hearts or our minds
we will always have in our hearts
that 30 seconds of wonderful in knowing that we were to become moms
and whether or not we have our babies beside us
our being a mom is never in question,
all of us each and every one of us
are moms.
Never forget that!
I have found over the years
that the words that hurt the most
are the ones made by family members that if they see us hurt or see us cry
how vulnerable they are to our pain!
So to keep from feeling badly they make comments like the ones you
have all spoken of,
those words are branded into our hearts and minds
and make us hurt and long for our sweet angels all the more.
Each of us are Moms,
no amount of time will change that,
no matter how others don't mention our angels
or make it like they understand by asking the ever popular question
how are you doing.
They dont want to hear the real answer to the question, they want to hear
that you are doing well and that you have moved on and everything is right
with our world
because if they hear our truth of what lies in our hearts and minds
then they are left open to our pain and
in there minds if we say we are doing fine
then by gosh that is wonderful
and they dont have to walk on the proverbial egg shells
that have become an intricate part of our lives.
Our pain, our loss is a reality for us no amount of small talk will ever
erase our hurt but for us to give them those that will never know
it is a solice for them
to be able to act like our loss is not effecting us
then they can cope with us better
and themselves.
One last thing
TO ALL OF YOU
WE ARE AND WILL FOREVER
BE MOMMIES
NO MATTER HOW MUCH TIME
HAS GONE BY
" JUST BECAUSE YOU CANNOT SEE OR TOUCH OUR CHILDREN
THAT DOES NOT ERASE THE FACT THAT WERE HERE
NOR DOES IT CHANGE THE FACT THAT WE MISS THEM MORE WITH EACH PASSING DAY
MENTION OUR CHILDREN FOR IN NOT SAYING OUR ANGELS NAME DOES NOT MEAN THEY
WERE NEVER THERE
Luv and hugs to all the mommies
that have walked the path of letting go of an angel.
If ever you need a friend
I am forever an e-mail away.
When links of life are broken, And a Child has to
part,
There is nothing that will ever heal, A parents broken heart.
My love for you is not written on paper,
For paper can be erased.
Nor is my love for you etched in stone,
For stone can be broken.
But my love for you is inscribed in my heart,
Where it shall remain forever
A grieving parent is someone who will never
forget their child no matter how painful memories are.
A grieving parent is someone who yearns to be with their
dead but connot conceive leaving their living ones.
A grieving parent is someone who has part of a heart as
the rest is buried with their child.
A grieving parent is someone who begs for relief from
the memories whch plague them and then feels guilty
when they get it.
A grieving parent is someone who pretends to be happy
and enjoying life when they really are dying inside.
A grieving parent is someone who can cry or laugh at
the drop of a hat whenever they remember their beloved
child.
A grieving parent is some who feels as if they just lost
their child yesterday no matter how much time has passed.
A grieving parent is someone who fears for their remaining
family because they cannot bear to have any more losses.
A grieving parent is someone who sits by their child's gravestone
and feels a knife stabbing their heart.
A grieving parent is someone who wants to help others who
have lost loved ones because somehow their loss is theirs
all over again.
I love you
Sent to me by Tony and Maria's Mom
Pat
Who can say for certain, maybe you're still here ...
I feel you all around me, your memory so clear.
Deep in the stillness I can hear you speak.
You're still an inspiration ~
can it be that you are mine forever, love.
And you are watching over me from up above.
Fly me up to where you are beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight
to see you smile, if only for a while, to know you're there ~
a breath away's not far to where you are.
Are you gently sleeping here inside my dream
and isn't faith believing all power can't be seen.
As my heart holds you, just one beat away,
I cherish all you gave me every day.
Because you are mine, forever love, watching me from up above.
And I believe that angel's grieve as our love will live on and never leave.
Fly me up to where you are beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight
to see you smile, if only for a while,
to know you're there ~ a breath away's not far to where you are.
I know you're there ... a breath away's not far to where you are.
In Memory of all of the lives lost on 9/11
When I come to the end of the road and the suns has set for me,
I want no nights in a gloom-filled room,
why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little but not too long,
and not with your head bowed low,
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me, but let me go.
For this is a journey that we all must take,
And each must go alone,
Its all part of the Master's plan,
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart,
Go to the friends we know,
And bury your sorrow in doing good deeds,
Miss me, but let me go.
~ Author unknown
Precious Child
Words and music by Karen Taylor-Good
In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
that can never be filled
but in my heart, there is hope
cause you are with me still
In my heart, you live on always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Though it may be true that we're apart
you will live forever... in my heart
In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
that can never be filled
but in my heart there is hope
and you are with me still
In my heart you live on always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
though it may be true that we're apart
you will live forever... in my heart
God knows I want to hold you, see you, touch you
and maybe there's a heaven
and someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then
In my heart you live on always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
though it may be true that we're apart
you will live forever... in my heart
Pam and Bobby
If Tears Could Build a Stairway
If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.
No farewell words were spoken
No time to say goodbye
You were gone before we knew it
And only God knows why.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten
We pledge to you today
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
-Author Unknown
 
 
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