Chapter one

The Beginning of the End......

I am not sure how to begin this, but I do want to say this much, I love my husband very much, and the pain that I watched him endure at the hand of his ex (who will hereby be referred to as Moo Cow) as she denied him access to his children, and spread lies about us, and the Parental Alienation Syndrome that took place, was and is reprehensible.

This all started for me in April of 1999, when I met my husband, who was then, still married to Moo  Cow. In fact, they were still living together. For us, it was an instantaneous attraction. We have been inseparable since April 14, which is our anniversary as a couple!

My husband and Moo Cow had many problems thru the years, but I was not a part of this, I do know, that they went to marriage counseling for a few months, and nothing was settled. I do know that at the time Moo Cow’s parents would tell my husband that he was only a sperm donor, and not good enough to be a father, and they wanted him out.  And, Moo Cow herself, told my husband that she wanted a divorce, almost on a daily basis.  So, when he finally united with me, suddenly it was all my fault, and she had a perfect marriage, that I stole from her!  Not that I believe that, but those are the lies that she has been telling!

Now, Moo Cow moved out of the marital home on June 14, 1999, and I moved in that very day.  From day one, she has made it very difficult for my husband to see the kids.  She insisted that he pay her $2,000.00 per month, for child support and spousal support.  She insisted on a divorce based on Adultery, and she took all of the marital property, except for the home, which she and my husband had let go into foreclosure (this, the home I moved into) At the time, my husband was making about $50,000.00 per year, so as you can see….it was above and beyond the support guidelines for Virginia.  My husband even helped her move out, but she would later claim in court that he threw her out, and changed the locks, that she had no idea it was coming, and that he basically deserted her. He took everything, and left her destitute!  That he had more of the marital property than her, so he started off in arrears!

Well, as I stated, she took everything, didn’t even leave my husband with a dish or a plate to eat from, and while all this was occurring, she was beginning her campaign of hatred, and harassment against me. She let several of her friends know that she would be coming to my job to confront me for stealing her husband. She had her friends and relatives leave nasty messages on our voice mail, crank call us at home (we had the # changed, but had to give it to her, because of the children) they left messages of hatred, and such on our family web page….and she solicited people to contact me online, to try to prove that I would be less than trustworthy to Brian (who is now my husband).

We were told that as long as I was living in the home with Brian, that we could not have any overnight visits, that it was immoral!  We reluctantly agreed to this, but imposed the same stiputlation  on Moo Cow, to which she totally and completely ignored! On more than one occasion!

Immeidately upon learning that I was expecting our first child, I told Brian that because she was still legally his wife, and the mother to his children, that she deserved to hear the news from him, and not thru the grapevine, well, this would be the first, but not the last time that being civil to this Moo Cow, would prove to be useless, and would come back to bite us in the @$$! She proceeded to call everyone and tell them that the baby wasn’t Brian’s , that I was a prostitute, I had AIDS, and that she herself was pregnant with Brian’s child (a total fabrication). She told friends and family alike, even Brian’s family who had never liked her, and to whom she never had a relationship with. She did this to strike up a relationship with these people, and get them on her side.

The stress from Moo Cow’s actions during my pregnancy caused many problems, as it was a non-stop onslaught!

At first, she began totally denying visitations, telling him that he didn’t pay her any money, so she wouldn’t let him see the kids, then once we could prove thru pay stubbs, and canceled checks that she was lying thru her teeth, it was because she didn’t want to have to come to our home, but wanted to make Brian do all of the traveling to see them.

At the time, we had an idiot for a lawyer, and he told us to agree with this, that she would still be signing the divorce decree before Christmas 1999, and Brian would be able to marry me before  the New Year.  Immagine our surprise, and disgust, when we found that she had switched gears in the middle of the proceedings!  She had decided to claim that it was an Uncontested matter, which forces both parties to wait 12 full months for a divorce, instead of 6 months as required with a divorced based on Adultery.  Brian was very upset, as he realized as did I, that she was going against every thing she had promised!

Moo Cow agreed to sign the divorce based on the following:

1)      She wanted $550.00 per month in spousal support for 3 years, and if she received this, she would work as a school bus driver, where she could take the children with her to work, and they would not require day care.

       2)  She would maintain her own housing, and would not move into the home of her 

            parents. And that she would be keeping the Van (which was in both parties  

            names, and she would take it out of Brian’s name ASAP)

Well, not only did she not sign the divorce papers, EVER! Upon his signature, she immediately refused to sign the divorce, and retained a new attorney, slowing the process, she moved in with her parents, put the children in day care without letting their father know, and took a full time job, making twice as much as she was previously.  She also has refused to take the van out of Brian’s name, thereby effectively preventing him from owning anything until the van is paid off, in 4 years.

She would come into my own home (we had moved, so it was not one in which she had lived previously) and accuse me of harassing her, this person, and I use this term loosely, would contact my X-Mother in Law, and X husband, to gossip about me, and spread nasty rumors, all the while, telling who ever would listen that I was obsessed on her, and I was the one harassing her.

On to Chapter two....