- creating a supportive network

An important point is to create a supportive network which might help you to find a prospective partner (if not yet present, friends who support you and who migh tin turn provide you with tips and
tricks and helpful receources. However first some people have to be convinced that your plan is a good one.

Some people might try to discourage you, often the most frequent argument you will encounter is the prognosis: your child will be hurt, discriminated, excluded because of your "orientation". This
point of view is not only based on a very vague assumption, which is rarely correct moreover it reveals the speakers point of you that you deserve to be discriminated, hurts, excluded. Confronting
these people with the question "will you let your child discriminate mine" can make those people think and forces them to leave generalities. After all one is not polling the whole country, but will
have to deal with the 30 other parents in your kid's class or the 6 others in your toddler playgroup.

One important point is however: give people time to adjust, the ones closest to you which will expect to be effeted most by your (and your partner's decision to have a child) might be reacting most
strongly. Often least supportive as they fear a workload of having to help. a good strategy is to involve them directly, making them part of the project without however assigning to timeconsuming
duties to them. Expect that some people will "disapear after the child is there and others will suddenly "surface", this might also be true for the other biological parent. This might also change again
over time.

Realtive strangers often take the news better, they have no obligation to help, so often they volunteer to donate useful things and in case you're trans the most conservative can sometimes be the most
helpful.

And contrary to popular belief children are as minors rarely requested to fill out potentialy troblesome forms which include statements who has legal custody or not.