You can be sure that if you have reached the stage where you are raising children and even beyond that stage when your children are already off and on their own, there will be people, not necessarily well meaning people, who will offer you advice. They will tell you the right way, according to their philosophy, the right way to raise your children. They supposedly know what is right and what is best. They know much better than you do. They will tell you how to do it.

It turns out that only a very small percentage of those who give advice have the right to do so. Most of the others give advice out of frustration from their own failures in raising their own children. They want to raise other children by proxy since they feel that they were not as successful as they would have liked or maybe even failures at raising their own children.

Yes, in some cases even the advice from these people might be valid or valuable. The might have realized that they made mistakes and they may want to prevent othrs from making similar mistakes. This would be indeed an honorable thing to do.

However, in all too many of the cases that is not their goal or mission. They simply want to give advice to compensate for the advice that they should have given themselves when raising their children. It is all too often a mistake and faulty advice. As such, it is worse than unwanted. It could be damaging.

Even people in positions of authority sometimes give unwarranted and unwanted advice that should not be given. That advice could cause damage. The fact that they are in a position of authority does not mean that they are necessarily in a position to help you raise your children. You as the parent very often know what is best. Not always, but there have been too many cases in which people who give advice should not be doing so, people who have been flaunting their authority in an ineffective and possibly obtrusive way.

Does that mean that you should reject all advice that is given to you from others about raising your children? Of course not. However, it does mean that with the big flow of information that comes your way, you should be very careful about how to accept it.

Get a second opinion and possibly more when you hear some advice that you feel may be questionable.

Perhaps even speak to a known and accepted expert in that particular field and find out if the advice which you received was valid.

Don't try out that advice first on your child. Find out from others about how they have dealt with similar issues. Let others try it out first and then you try it out.

Consult with an online forum in order to see how other people have dealt with similar situations with similar advice.

Remember that you are not required to accept the advice of others and that you should be very selective in the advice that you do accept. You are in control of what you accept and what you reject. Now you can go about the acceptance of advice wisely.

Including the advice on this page.