The dating procedure may involve more issues than you realized.

• A message for reviewers of this section

Getting started

• Before you begin
• Easy
• An overview of the process
• Definition
• Disclaimer
• This website and your Rabbi
• Selecting a partner for life
• Is your partner disposable?
• Are you afraid to date?
• Are you ready to start dating?

Your confidant

• Choosing a confidant
• Who could be a confidant
• The job of the confidant
• What could make a good confidant fail in his job?
• There must be only one confidant
• Be honest and open about your feelings
• Getting too much advice
• Your wishes as a confidant and his wishes

A list of what you want

• Make a list
• When is the best time to make a list?
• Brainstorming
• What is on the list?
• What should you look for in a spouse?
• Arranging your list in order of your priorities
• Making compromises
• A parent for your children
• How much money should your spouse earn?
• Two things to keep in mind

Locating your partner

• Getting the word out that you're available
• You can't tell where your match will come from
• Don't let them pressure you
• The shidduch
• The shadchan
• Multiple sources
• Intentionally limiting your options

Berurim

• Too late
• Reasons to find out about your match in advance
• What are Berurim?
• An overview of the berurim procedure
• What questions to ask
• How to obtain information during Berurim
• Did they understand? The dangers of getting only positive information
• Did they understand? Clarifications during Berurim
• Are both of you on the same wavelength?
• Dealing with unclear Berurim
• Meet your sources of information in person

Courtship and dating

• Goals of your dates
• First impressions
• Dealing with your nervous feelings
• What are girls like?
• What are boys like?
• The date
• Stick to your list
• Give the date a fair chance
• Eye contact
• Delay

After your first date

• Beauty fades
• In-laws
• Dating for a reasonably long time
• Israel
• When to stop dating
• Checklist

Compatibility

• It's not always the happiest time in your life
• Are you compatible?
• Changing your partner
• Accepting disabilities
• Marry me! The boy's point of view
• Marry me! The girl's point of view
• Carbon 14
• Are you able to handle parenthood?
• Everyone has skeletons in the closet
• Your spouse's profession
• Character traits
• Love
• Telling it straight
• Is time important to you?
• Is She will win you over
• Do you want to be controlled?
• Like a business partner
• How important is unanimity?
• Making decisions
• When he's in public

What went wrong?

• Watch out for these warning signs on your dates
• Why was I rejected?
• Should I break off?
• Summary of the procedure: The proversation

Potpourri

• Dates are like computers: A bad analogy
• Know what your parents want
• The advantages of marrying while you're still young
• Frustration! Have you waited too long?
• A collection of advice
• Where to go for further discussion
• Your comments: upDating this website
• Pressuring for a response
• Courses for potential brides and grooms
• It's like clothes or houses
• Desperate