The issues raised in the article about the divorce rate divorce rate are quite similar in effect to the issue of yeridah among Westerners. In both cases, people sometimes say to themselves, "I'll try it. I don't know that much about what I'm getting into but we'll see what happens. I'll give it a try. The worst that happens is that I will go back to the position that I was in before."

Unfortunately, the position that you were in before, after trying out a marriage, is that you are again single. You have hurt your spouse, possibly your family. You've caused irreparable damage to the lives of a number of people and this is not the thing to experiment with. Marriage should never be an experiment. Marriage should be something that you are quite definite and quite certain about before you go into it and you should look into all the eventualities and possibilities. It should not be something in which you say "I'll try it. What can be wrong?" It shouldn't be something in which you say, "Listen, it isn't really the right thing to do. This person is not really my best match, but I'll work things out. It will be okay." That blase attitude is wrong and it has been the cause of innumerable lives that have been damaged by the marriage.

Furthermore, the concept of trying it out and then going back to your old way of life doesn't really happen. Once you've been married then you can no longer go back to your old way of life again. You can't go back to the situation you were in before because you are no longer in that position. You are no longer a single person. You are a divorced person. A divorced person is not the same and it is a cause for a negative reputation among your friends and a difficult problems and feelings within yourself. So either you continue with an unfortunate, sad, or improper marriage or you will break up. Either situation is problematic and to be not recommended at all.

Same as reason for yerida among westerners – attitude of I'll try it, and see if it works, and if it does, fine; if not, then I'll go back to my old way of life.

Everybody has great ideas about what needs to be done in order to choose the perfect mate, in order to be happy, in order to create or prevent a power struggle, and much more. The ideas are often contradictory. Usually, someone comes along and presents a "solution". Try it, you'll like it. What do you have to lose? Sounds like an unsuccessful antacid commercial.

What do you have to lose? A lot! That's not the way you would go into any enterprise, or purchase an item of importance, or handle the rest of your life.

It seems that the more important an issue is, the more frustrated and resigned some people are, and the more they may be ready to make an unwarranted decisions that are not based on their own ways of running the rest of their life.