Life is no brief candle to me. It will do no good to force your child to follow in your own footsteps.
Do anything necessary in order to help them continue the positive things that you do or know. However, that should not be a cause for conflict between you and your child.
If you can encourage your child that he can benefit from the good things that you can teach him, then you have succeeded, and your child will want to learn it.
This happens quite frequently. After all, you do see "father and son" stores that are passed on for several generations. The father has inculcated his selling ability to the child.
However, if you cannot pass on these skills, if the child doesn't want to accept them, or if you see that the child might rebel as a result, then you will have lost more than you gained. It's not worth it.
Alternatively, you may want your child to take on a profession that you consider to be more prestigious. In this case, too, the child may have other ideas.
Do some introspection. See whether you and your child can meet your expectations. Go slowly, with frequent and repeated introspections as you continue to teach the child more and more. If there are setbacks, then pause or drop the idea. Let your child set and determine the pace in which you show him new things. He must feel that he wants to learn from you. That is the only way that you will be able to succeed.
It is a sort of splendid torch
which I have got a hold of
for the moment,
and I want to make it burn
as brightly as possible
before handing it on
to future generations
- George Bernard Shaw
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