Some people call before they come home. Others knock gently before entering the home.

However, there are still others who enter a house with the delicacy of an airplane entering the North Tower of the World Trade Center.

Some people would say that this is a cultural issue. They are wrong. It's a question of manners.

A child might be spoiled for many reasons:

• He's an only child
• He's the youngest child
• He's a child who arrived after many years of waiting
• Family circumstances have changed and the parents no longer have the patience that they had with the older children

When that happens, he may receive a double message.

• HE does not have to knock or call.
• HE can interrupt someone else who is talking.
• HE can drive the household crazy with his tantrums or wants or desires.

However, don't try to tell him what to do. Don't send him to bed or interrupt him.

Those parents may look back and see how different this child turned out from their older children and realize that they have created a monster. They may make excuses for the results, but the bottom line is that their child is not manageable.

Of course, it's much easier to discuss this situation than to actually deal with the problem when you have such a child.