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There are benefits to going to weddings.

You might feel that it's not a good idea to go because, after all, they are all basically the same and there is a lot of time that you just sit around and do nothing. Yes, it's often difficult to talk because the band is too loud and so on. These are reasons not to go to the wedding. The Jewish custom of going to a wedding in order to make a bride and groom happy may not speak to you properly because you may look at it in a selfish kind of way and you might want to make yourself happy and let the others make the bride and groom happy and you may even think if it was easy to make the bride and groom happy then there wouldn't be a reason to urge people to do so. It wouldn't have to be a stipulated custom.

However, there are benefits to going to a wedding and there are certainly benefits to making the contacts that you are going to meet over there. One person will introduce you to another and you can have a great deal of fun playing Jewish geography.

As a matter of fact you could even go to a wedding and enjoy yourself if you don't really enjoy the company of the baalei simcha, the people who are making the wedding or their immediate relatives. They are quite irrelevant to most weddings. You usually have the least contact with the people spend all of the money to make that wedding.

As a result, sometimes the weddings that you would think would be the least pleasant are for your own selfish reasons the most effective and the most worthwhile.

It very often certainly does pay to go to weddings.