Much has been written about child/in-law relationships. There are many legitimate responsibilities of parents or in-laws and the parents or the in-laws should act properly and in a way that's will promote communication and goodwill betweentheir children and their own in-laws.

However, another side to the story is rarely ever discussed: The expectations of the children.

That's right. The parents have to help, but so do the children. The child has to help the spouse accept his family, learn about and accept their ideas, and even create a warm relationship.

Do not belittle the part of the child.