It isn't always a good idea to get advice from a third party.

A third party is somebody who pushes himself into a situation. It might be somebody who means well or who wants to do well, but these people do not always give you the best suggestions or advice.

In this category you might find a person who meddles in other people's lives and is always filled with advice. That does not mean that his advice is worthwhile.

With such a person talk is cheap. he doesn't mind giving advice. He enjoys the idea and the concept behind feeling good about giving people advice, but he is not necessarily authorized or qualified to do so in the best possible way.

There is the shadchan who looks for people who are not married and gives them advice. He sometimes has an interest in this because he will receive money for making the shidduch.

There are lawyers who are known to chase ambulances and they give recommendations knowing that they will then get a job and possibly a court case.

There are well-meaning friends, acquaintances, and other contacts but they are not necessarily qualified to give you the right answer.

All of these people may mish arein into your business if you allow them to do so or even in some cases if you don't allow them to do so, and you may be disappointed with the results if you let them tell you too many things to do.

Perhaps the most difficult ones to deal with, most difficult third party is the people who are in positions in authority, people whom you respect, and when they interject their ideas it may be difficult to refuse what they saw, but you have to keep in mind that it is your life and you will have to act accordingly.

Some people who interject their ideas, push themselves into your life are not welcome as others are in these positions of authority in which they come and give you advice and then they may come back and check up on you to determine whether you have followed their advice and show various signs of disapproval if you did not follow their advice.

This can be a very difficult situation when you would have to face that person, he makes you feel guilty for not doing what he requested or suggested. It turns out that the suggestion from somebody whom you respected turns out to be a friendly demand or requirement.

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