One of the main reasons for hatred is a situation that could have been avoided. One party does not understand or confuses the concepts or needs of the other party and the hatred develops as a result.

In other cases one party anticipates what the other party "really" means by a statement or action and then brings the situation beyond the normal limits or acceptable limits.

In these cases the confusion leading to the hatred could have been avoided by a proper dialogue.

However, the person who is hating very often cannot enter into a dialogue or does not want to or feels that a dialogue will serve no purpose and will not help things.

Although a third party could be brought in on certain occasions. In all too many cases that additional individual or individuals will only serve to exacerbate the problem.