What barriers might hinder a person from achieving his life's goals?
A major life issue or goal may be very important to an individual, but somebody or something blocks his ability to achieve it.
They may include a sworn enemy who wants to gain revenge for an act that was committed, a bad person, or many other issues. Enemies can prevent people from achieving goals in their lives. They are factors to be considered.
The barrier could also be a skeleton in the closet, or a physical restriction or limitation.
That enemy might be a businessman who wants to assure that his competition fails. The victim may make a tremendous effort to succeed, but be thwarted time and again. At some point, their frustration may cause them to give up, since they do not feel that they can overcome the enemy.
This is wrong.
What can be done about their enemy?
One possibility is to just try to keep going, despite the enemy.
In other cases, they might want to battle the enemy in court, or by physical means.
However, this option should be given great thought. It may be better not to fight. After all, a battle or court involves many other issues. Justice and Right may not necessarily prevail. Good does not always win over bad. The court pits a clear winner against a clear loser, but that clear winner may not deserve to win according to your perception. If you lose, then it will be much more difficult to reach the goal. In other words, you are in a worse position than you would have been in had you not gone to battle or to court. The question therefore is quite clear: Should you just keep trying, keep battling, keep trying to move uphill despite the problems and the issues, or should you fight the problems in your way and then try to win.
Of course, there is no one-size-fits-all answer for this question. However, you should consider your options in consultation with experts in the field, and you should take steps that offer you the assurance that you have a good enough chance of winning.
It is important for you to win here because you are winning more than just the case. You are winning your ability to be able to achieve a life's goal or a more difficult struggle in achieving that life's goal.
What happens if you choose to go to battle or to court and you lose?
This does make the issue much more difficult. It does raise problems. You will then have to accept that now your opportunities are more limited and difficult. You will have to pull yourself together in a proud and upright manner, and try again and again and as much as is necessary, even though you have had a tremendous setback of losing the battle or the court case. You must continue to achieve your goal.
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