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There is a difference between the domineering personality and the dominant personality.

A domineering person pushes himself onto others. A dominant person is usually naturally the leader and the one who arranges for things to be done.

The domineering when we observe people we often find a domineering person. That person wants to take over the life everybody else's life and to arrange things for them and wants to control things.

The domineering person often does his domineering in a way that insults or offends others who are in the vicinity. This is the main thing that stands out about the person.

Indeed, there are always leaders and followers. A leader is different from a domineering person in that a leader has something that it takes that makes people follow him, want to follow him, be interested in following him, and agree without thinking to accept him as the leader.

This differs from the domineering person who does not have those traits, does not have the attraction that a leader has but still wants to be a person who does the leading even though it does not come naturally to him. He has to push himself. He has to force himself to be the leader. And the difference is that this person pushes himself on others.

You can see the domineering type all over. These people are always trying to put themselves on stage and others usually try to hide or to shy away from that person.

Don't try to convince the domineering person to change his way of acting, to change his way of life. He doesn't want to. He's not interested. He's been told many times before you came along that he should act differently. He did not listen to them. There's no reason why he should listen to you or to change his way because you came along and you said so.

Is the issue hopeless?

Perhaps that's the wrong question to ask. Whether it's hopeless or not does not matter as much as considering whether it's worth trying to change the domineering person. Why bother? If that's the way he chooses to be despite the fact that everybody else tells him to do that, then perhaps the best way to deal with the issue is to follow the crowds and avoid the domineering person if you can.

It's different of course in a work situation, especially if that domineering person has a position of importance or of control over other people's work or jobs. He might have pushed himself into that position and he might want to continue pushing in order to either maintain the position or to grow with that position.

If you do decide to take on the domineering person, then stop first and ask yourself some questions.

• What is your goal in taking on this person?
• What do you hope to accomplish by taking on the person?
• What are your chances of success when you take on this person?
• What do you stand to lose if you do not win over this person?
• What benefits or rewards await you if you succeed in conquering this domineering person?
• Has somebody else sent you to conquer the domineering person and are you their pawn who is supposed to do things for the person?

If you decide after answering these questions that there's not much in it for you, then perhaps you should rethink whether you should bother with this domineering person at all.

In more cases than not you will decide that it is just not worth it.