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There are people who really do believe that they are entitled to speak very highly of themselves. They feel that they are honorable menschen and they walk around with an air of importance, even though the are not necessarily arrogant.

Strangely, not everybody finds these people to be annoying. Perhaps if they did then they would stop talking in this way but there are many people who tolerate these pompous people and even respect them and give them courtesy and honor. These people often can reach higher levels and high status because they are pompous. They speak highly enough of themselves that other people often believe them.

Not everybody, of course. Some people accept their pompousness, others don't.

Surprisingly, however, pomposity is not necessarily a reflection of one true feelings. Sometimes pompous people are merely being defensive. They have been attacked and they feel that they will continue to be attacked and their way of responding is that before they are attacked the next time, they feel that they have a need to demonstrate that they have a value, worth, importance. So they show their pompousness.

Before judging these people and putting them aside, it is important to evaluate whether their pompousness is genuine, in which case you may want to avoid the person or if it is a defensive proaction in which case it is to be regretted, the poor unfortunate soul has no choice but to act the way he does and deep underneath after he sees that there is no reason to have to prove anything and if he sees that he is accepted, you might discover that he really is a very nice guy after all.

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There are people who feel that they don't get enough respect, that nobody recognizes their value, worth, and importance.

These people feel that they don't deserve the treatment that others give them. They feel that they should be given a lot more, so they act pompous. They want to show everybody that they are important. They are filled with their own importance when the importance does not exist.

Granted, this is not always the reason, but it is certainly one issue which causes people to become pompous.

If a person acts unusually pompous then you may want to investigate whether the opposite might be the more correct situation. Of course, it is not always proper to come down very hard on a fellow who is pompous. First of all, he may have a legitimate reason for being pompous. Maybe he is something special. Secondly, maybe he does deserve better treatment and maybe he has been forgotten or overlooked, and maybe he does deserve better treatment than he gets.

A person in that category might feel frustrated. He knows his worth. He knows his value. And he realizes that he is not getting the attention or treatment that he deserves. As a result of that perhaps his pompousness is an exhibition of a deep seated and well-deserved need that is not met.

Thus, with a pompous individual the underlying causes are not necessarily that easy to determine and you would have to look at the big picture in order to see what is really going on.

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When a person is pompous it usually means that there's something more that needs to be looked into. Why does that person feel the need to be pompous? Most other people can be accepted or even respected for what they are.

A pompous person probably is trying to show that he feels exactly the opposite of what he is demonstrating. He feels put down. He feels repressed. He feels small. And he needs to show everybody, look I really am important. I really am a big shot.

A closer examination of the pompousness could even lead in some cases to an analysis of the person's inferiority complex. It would be wise to look into this and to see what causes it and possibly to help the person deal with it in a more effective way.