YOU
DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT
By
Harold Kushner
The
Missing Piece (by Shel Silverstein) tells the story of a circle that was
missing a piece.
A
large triangular wedge had been cut out of it. The circle wanted
to be whole with
nothing
missing, so it went around looking for its missing piece. But because
it was incomplete
and
therefore could roll only very slowly, it admired the flowers along the
way.
It
chatted with worms. It enjoyed the sunshine. It found lots
of different pieces, but none
of
them fit. So it left them all by the side of the road and kept on
searching. Then one day
the
circle found a piece that fit perfectly. It was so happy. Now it
could be whole, with
nothing
missing. It incorporated the missing piece into itself and began
to roll. Now that it
was
a perfect circle, it could roll very fast, too fast to notice the flowers
or talk to the
worms.
When
it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly, it
stopped, left
its
found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away.
The
lesson of the story was that in some strange sense we are more whole when
we are
missing
something. The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man.
He will
never
know what it feels like to yearn, to hope, to nourish his soul with the
dream of
something
better. He will never know the experience of having someone who loves
him
give
him something he has always wanted and never had. There is a wholeness
about the
person
who has come to terms with his limitations, who has been brave enough to
let go of
his
unrealistic dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so. There
is a wholeness about
the
man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go through
a tragedy
and
survive, who can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.
When
we accept that imperfection is part of being human, and when we can
continue rolling
through
life and appreciating it, we will have achieved a wholeness that others
can only aspire to.
That,
I believe, is what God asks of us - not "Be perfect," not "Don't ever
make
a mistake," but "Be whole." And at the end, if we are brave enough to love,
strong
enough
to forgive, generous enough to rejoice in another's happiness, and wise
enough to
know
there is enough love to go around for us all, then we can achieve a fulfillment
that no
other
living creature will ever know.....
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