Thomas "Tommy" George Dolby, Jr.
September 2, 1970 - February 19, 1990
You are with me still... with every Crosby, Stills & Nash song on the radio,
you sit with me and sing.
You are with me still...as I wear your black leather jacket
~you looked so cool in it.
You are with me still... at the Dairy Queen
where we order a blizzard with cherry nerds.
You are with me still...as I proudly wear the sweater
you gave me for Christmas,
I remember you said, "Tam, it's you."
You are with me still...as we cooked lobsters together,
melting butter, & you were feeling sorry for the lobsters.
You are with me still...as the music surrounds us at a rock concert,
with you and me picking out t-shirts together.
You are with me still...as I slip a silver bracelet on my wrist
that once was upon yours.
You are with me still...as I gaze down at your grave,
yet I know you truly are not there.
For you are with me always...each and every day.
with love, your big sister, Tammy
I am wearing the sweater that Tommy picked out for me.
An L.A. Raiders cap, turned backwards.
Long brown hair, styled to perfection.
Stunningly long eyelashes...the envy of all the girls.
I.O.U. sweatshirts and black t-shirts of heavy metal bands.
Tight blue jeans, ripped up knees, only the best tennis shoes.
A big brown cassette case with all of the tapes placed meticulously in alphabetical order.
Earings and chains and bracelets of silver~ knives and guns and crosses.
The smell of Drakkar when he entered the room.
Tough and cool on the outside.
Sensitive and fragile on the inside...
Memories of Tommy.
Written for Tommy Dolby
9-2-70 ~ 2-19-90
by his big sister Tammy Tobac
The tears still flow
though it's been so many years.
I still can muster up
that ache and longing for you
like it was just yesterday.
The missing you is what hurts.
It will never go away.
I will always wish you were here sharing my life.
I need you...
I want you...
I love you...
as much as I always have.
You hold a very special piece of my heart.
I hope that you took it with you when you left...
because I'm sure it's missing here.
Your memory will never be
a faded part of my past
but always a constant vivid picture
of what SHOULD have been.
2/19/90
With Love ever missing you,
Your Big Sister, Tammy Tobac
Letters, raised up in polished bronze
My fingers touch the half of the circle
that spells your name
Tanner Jason Tobac
Beautiful blue skies
sunshine warmly touching the earth
others would rejoice
I sit upon my brother's grave
Feeling letters that spell
Thomas G. Dolby
Tommy
Uncle Tommy
Now embracing Tanner
Oh who would you be if you were here with me?
Death in its unfairness has taken you both.
Together here you lay.
I sit upon these stones
and let the warm tears fall
and dream of a life with you in it.
Today...
Tanner now 9 years old
Tommy thirty-eight.
And all I can do is touch the letters
that spell your names.
Written by Tammy Tobac
in loving memory of my brother Tommy Dolby
and in loving memory of my son, Tanner Jason Tobac,
born into the arms of Jesus 9/30/99
Right now I'm in a different place
And though we seem far apart
I'm closer than I ever was
I'm there inside your heart
I'm with you when you greet each day
And when the sun shines bright
I'm there to share the sunsets too
I'm with you every night
I'm with you when the times are good
To share a laugh or two
And if a tear should start to fall
I'll always be there for you
And when the day arrives
That we are no longer apart
I'll smile and hold you close to me
Forever in your heart
Friends may think we have forgotten
When at times they see us smile.
Little do they know the heartaches
That our smiles hide all the while.
Beautiful memories are wonderful things.
That last till the longest day.
They never wear out.
They never get lost and can never be given away.
To some you may be forgotten.
To others apart of the past.
But to those who loved and lost you...
Your memory will always last.
~ Author Unknown
The Moment that you died,
Our hearts split in two,
The one side filled with memories
The other died with you.
I often lay awake at night,
When the world is fast asleep,
And take a walk down memory lane,
With tears upon my cheeks.
Remembering you is easy,
I do it every day,
But missing you is a heartache,
That never goes away.
We hold you tightly within our hearts,
And there you will remain,
Life has gone on without you,
But will never be the same.
She also made the wonderful graphic for Tommy that is at the very top of this page.
Stars are the Windows To HEAVEN
Where our ANGEL'S PEEK THROUGH
Even on their Angelversarys
One of those Windows
Belongs to your ANGEL Tommy
Open your HEART Tammy
He is there watching over you
He will give you a soft wave Of his hand
And that gentle smile He always had
When GOD calls you HOME Tammy
Your ANGEL Tommy Will be waiting
at those GOLDEN GATES FOR YOU
REMEMBERING TOMMY IN HEAVEN
Written By Sue-Anne Aguilera~~~Lee'sMom
MY DEEPEST LOVE TAMMY
A friend can hear a tear drop. 
This webpage is created
Maria's Tribute to Christopher
