One Sunday, a couple of
weeks ago, I happened to channel-surf onto the romantic movie,
"Breakfast
at Tiffany's," about a woman named Holly Golightly, who
makes a holiday of life, but treads through it lightly.
Graphic,
courtesy of Arie's Tribute Site
Although it
is quite the movie classic, I had never seen it before. I
was captivated by Audrey Hepburn's ethereal, innocent, yet
sophisticated beauty. Twenty years ago, I was similarly affected by
a client named Willow. With long, silky blonde hair and
an angelic look, Willow was a sight for sore eyes, as they say. Back
then, she was a single mother of a young son, Ric, who is
stunningly good-looking and as sweet and unaffected as can be. Ever
since our first meeting, I've seen Willow yearly, and her beauty has
only deepened. Hers became a ripening inner beauty. She never
found Mr. Right, or vice versa, but that didn't stop her from
fulfilling her dream of having a family. In
recent years, she's been working full-time while fostering three
beautiful girls: Tawny, Treena and Lalique.
Treena and Lalique are biological sisters of Afro-American descent;
they were "crack-babies", i.e., their biological mother
was hooked on crack cocaine at the time of their births. Willow
fell in love with all three girls, and in time, not wanting to part
from them, legally adopted them. She has provided them with a stable
and loving home, and I've witnessed the flourishing of these
three beautiful girls. Willow is ever the responsible mother, making
certain they are well-cared for in every way, including ice-skating
lessons. Last
year, when Willow came in for her yearly visit, I was stunned.
It was as if the light was being snuffed out of her. She had hit a
rough patch in life. She was feeling burnt out at work. Willow's son
became a new father, necessitating his temporarily dropping out of
college to support his young family. Caring
for her young daughters became a greater challenge for Willow with
her ever-helpful son starting his own family, as well as her own
mother's having to move out of the area when her landlord sold the
rental she lived in. Grandmother Ella -- who is another
raving beauty, inside and out -- was Willow's indispensable helper
with the girls. I
did what I could do to help Willow. I jotted her name into my prayer book and consciously
prayed for her all
year. This
year, just a week ago, Willow returned to our office even more
beautiful than ever. She was radiant once more. "What
happened?" I asked, surprised by the dramatic transformation. "My
office started something called the "Fish! Philosophy,"
she said. "It has made all the difference in the
world." The
philosophy has something to do about having fun in the workplace.
That certainly piqued my interest. These may be the last five years
of my professional worklife; I want to go out at the top with a
BANG! Having fun with the best group of people I've ever
had the privilege to work with holds great appeal. I
love having fun! Like the Holly Golightly character in the
movie, it would delight me to make every day a holiday and a
celebration at work. So
stay tuned for more developments on the Fish! philosophy. I don't
know what it is all about. I picked up the book on Monday.
Although it can be read in one sitting -- my friend, Sue, read it in
an hour -- I've only read the first few pages of the book. Cia
asked if she could read the book over the weekend, and knowing that
this is one hectic weekend coming up for us, I was glad to have her
read it first. Back
to Willow, today she came in with her eldest daughter, Tawny, who is
now 11. It's hard to believe that they are not biologically
related. With the same blonde, tawny coloring with sparkling
hazel-green eyes, they look so very much alike. Tawny
is absolutely thriving, even winning an academic award in
school. She proudly showed me her newly trimmed hairdo.
She and Willow had their long locks shorn, and they donated them to
"Locks of Love"
in Florida to be made into hairpieces for those who have lost their
hair to cancer. It
is a joy for me to care for three generations with remarkable inner
and outer beauty: Willow; Willow's mother, who has found a new
love interest after many years of being single; and now Willow's
daughters and son. They
are gifts in my life. Beautiful treasures with humanism
wrapped so gorgeously. It would seem that they have been
following Ms. Hepburn's beauty tips:
Beauty
Tips
by Audrey Hepburn
For
attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely
eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim
figure, share your food with the hungry.
For
beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.
People, even
more than things,
have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and
redeemed.
Never throw out anybody.
Remember:
if you ever need a helping hand,
you'll find one at the end of your arm.
As you grow older,
you will discover that you have two hands,
one for helping yourself,
the other for helping others.
The
beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,
the figure that she carries,
or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a
woman must be seen from in her eyes,
because that is the doorway to her heart,
the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,
but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in
her soul.
It is the caring
that she lovingly gives,
the passion that she shows.
"Life is a Gift."
Me ke
Aloha,
Author
Unknown
"The
only gift is a portion of thyself..."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
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