LOVING SOMEONE FROM A DISTANCE |
Sometimes, in our
relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and
appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things and
simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go
for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding
happiness not with the man you love but the man who loves you more.
The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough
to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep
within your being. To let go of someone doesn't mean you have to stop loving, it
only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without
expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person
free, but it is also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and
anger that is kept in your heart.
Do not let the bitterness lure away your strength and weaken your faith, and
never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in
bearing it. You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance not
expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can
never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful
memories of the past but real peace and happiness comes only with open
acceptance of what reality is today.
There
comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and
we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This
feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our
thoughts and actions.
The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing
more for us than just friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed
and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up
being sorry for ourselves.
You don't have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to
accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself.
Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone
more deserving. Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your
mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well.
Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is
coming tomorrow: If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love.
Cry, if you have to, but make sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the
bitterness that the past has left you. Let go of yesterday and love will find
its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will
stay and last a lifetime.
STI-College Sta. Cruz