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| The following brochure was created by Pat Harris, LMFT ResolveToHeal.com Pat-Harris.com This is page 3 This booklet comes to you courtesy of ResolveToHeal.com, Pat-Harris.com (audio letters to families) and these websites: WeekendLearningSpace.com LookForPatterns.com VisualAndActive.com WhatDoYaKnow.com BuildingInternationalBridges.com MathForArtists.com DoubleMoonShot.com Listening to Mr. Friedman Ten Ways to Extend Your Child’s Education by Pat Harris, LMFT www.Pat-Harris.com www.ResolveToHeal.com 4. Focus on your child's intentions. Instead of being critical, comment on the action. If your child surprises you with a toasted sandwich to welcome you home after work, don’t point out that the bread is burned. Say, “How thoughtful of you to prepare something for me. Can you show me how you did it?” (then you can see what your child did incorrectly). “The next time, check the setting of the toaster, but I’m so happy that you thought of me.” 5. Accept the fact that we are all teachers. Don't blame the school for everything. When was the last time you volunteered to speak to a class of middle school students? We can each participate – and your child will notice that you care about what happens in the school. Even a patient with a serious disease takes charge of her condition by asking questions and looking for the right treatment. If her relationship with her doctor is not positive, she works to fix it or she has the right terminate services and get another doctor. If your relationship with a school isn’t working, you can fix it or find a school that meets your child’s needs. For example, do you know what Bill Gates says about schools today? You can find out at www.WhatShouldStudentsLearn.com. 6. Encourage your child to talk about his or her frustrations. Validate their feelings. Remember to use the “I” statement. When your child says that a “former” friend is a [negative label], ask the child to reframe and make it personal: “I feel [hurt, isolated, lonely, left out] when my friend [laughed at me, didn’t invite me to the party, etc.].” 7. Keep the door open to communication. But don't force them to talk. If you make time to listen, someday your child will come with a problem. Instead of saying “Can’t this wait?” or “You waited until NOW to tell me this?” you can “reframe” or restate the situation: “Honey, I’m ready to give you my full attention. What’s on your mind?” page 2 page 3 page 4 page 5 |
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