The Silver Braid Survivors of Sexual Exploitation Network Metro Atlanta Area
Home About Us    Meeting Format 12 Steps Healing Sex & Love Sexual Issues Aftereffects Affirmations News Speak Out Recovery Sexual Abuse Survivors   Voices For Justice   Anne Bissell     Anne Bissell's Bio: (On-line Press Kit) The Mighty Phoenix Contact		Who is a Sexual Abuse Survivor and How Do we Begin to Heal? Sexual abuse survivors are a group of individuals who have had their ability to enjoy sexuality as a sacred, life-enhancing experience violated as a result of sexual abuse. We believe that sexual abuse encompasses a broad range of experiences, and while some might have been subtle, some were all-too graphic. Yet, in each experience, no matter what end of the continuum our experience falls upon, our core personal integrity was violated. A shattering of our worth, our dignity and self-esteem occurred. Our experience includes the following forms of sexual exploitation. ·       Incest ·       Rape, including date and marital rape ·       Prostitution, all forms of the sex industry including performing in porn or website productions ·       Sexual harassment ·       Verbal sexual assault ·       Molestation ·       Inappropriate exposure to overly graphic sexual content in all arenas including the following: Internet, porn, magazines, or, forced to watch, or listen to, parents and or caregivers engaged in sexual activities ·       Priest or any other authority figure sexual abuse ·       Domestic and/or verbal violence where we are threatened with harm if we do not perform sexually.  All sexual abuse is destructive to the victim, the perpetrator, and the entire community. There is no form of sexual abuse that can be tolerated—it is all unacceptable. Healing The Split As sexual abuse survivors, we let the power of the group help us heal what we call “The Split.” The split is our tendency to disassociate from our bodies during the sexual act. The split is a psychological phenomenon. To survive the abuse, we suspend high above the experience. It is now scientifically proven that children who are being abused leave their bodies.  Here are a few more terms for “The Split.” •      Disassociation •     Freezing or numbing emotions •     Blocking out periods of time •     An inability to live in the moment •     Anxiety attacks •       Flashbacks •      Panic attacks •       Nightmares From this impaired perspective, without the awareness that recovery brings, we are locked into self-destructive patterns. For example, we might project the experiences of victimization onto our sexual experience. Perhaps sex has become an act, or something we feel is expected of us. We learned from our perpetrators that we were expected to “produce” on demand, and that we didn’t have the right to say no.   Whatever our personal experiences might have been, as we participate in the recovery process, we learn that we do have the right to define our sexual experience in our own best interests. In the safety of our group, we will learn together how to make healthier choices with regards to our personal relationships and sexuality. We begin to set new boundaries, or choose a time of abstinence to allow ourselves to heal. By listening to other survivor’s stories, we have the opportunity to become whole, to heal the split. As Survivors In Recovery, we tell our stories as one of the methods of re-integration. Those dark secrets that we kept buried deep within can come out. Once exposed to the sunlight of the spirit, our dark past becomes an asset that helps us bond with other survivors. We find new ways to experience our sexuality that empowers and is life-enhancing. We become whole. Why Recovery? We believe recovery is necessary if we are to recognize how the aftereffects of sexual abuse have made our lives unmanageable. We have become powerless over a multitude of symptoms and behaviors. When you are a survivor of any form of sexual abuse, whether it is incest, date rape, or prostitution, there are many aftereffects. These may manifest in your life in any combination of ways. Think of these behaviors as a constellation of symptoms that until now you might not have been aware of. Eventually, these symptoms create a full-blown syndrome, or disease. These symptoms are similar to those associated with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  We believe that some, if not all of these behaviors served to distract you from your pain regarding the sexual abuse. You are not alone. Our program concentrates on uncovering, discovering and discarding aftereffects that no longer serve us. When we are able to act from this place of recognition and understanding, we begin to experience personal freedom. We use the power of the sacred circle, the group, and our Higher Power. We join hands in our mutual pain, and begin to create what we call: “The Silver Braid.” Our toll free Hot line is 1-888-702-7273 “Every day, a child is exploited, every day, we look the other way. If I did not tell the truth about what happened in my lifetime as a result of my own experiences as an exploited child, it would be as if I too was looking the other way. If no one tells the truth, the exploitation will become the norm.” Anne Bissell “Children are our future and we as a society need to do what we can to protect them from falling prey to sexual assault and child exploitation.” Marie Waldrep