Resources can be therapy, reading appropriate books,
talking, writing, appropriate Internet sites, faith, spirituality, having a
positive person in your life, activity, or creativity. Being proactive in your
recovery.
Predators want us to lose our faith, yes even the
female/male predator that attends every church service. Predators have no
faith; faith is part of humanity. And predators have no humanity, if she/he had
any, they would never harm a child or an adult. If they ever cared once how
much pain they caused she/he could not bring harm to another.
Positive life choices.
Resources may take time to discover and develop, but
they are worth the time.
I realize this is much easier said than done, but it is
possible. Recovery takes hard work and time, but you are worth it. It is an
investment in yourself and for your future. Predators do not have to terrorize
your life.
However, there aren’t enough books or Internet sites
devoted to just men or boys who have been victimized, but the books listed and
Web titles listed are extremely helpful.
I personally believe, that it really helps to have someone to talk to about the
abuse, and a trained therapist or psychotherapist will support and help you. It
is frightening to let others know, because we don’t want to know ourselves. It
is important that when you seek a therapist/psychologist/ psychotherapist that
it is someone who is trained in the area of sexual abuse and is someone that
you feel comfortable with. A good therapist will not rush you or make
judgments. The power is within you and a trained therapist/psychologist/
psychotherapist and appropriate books can help guide you in your recovery. A therapist has the training and resources
to give the perspective that is desperately needed to a survivor. Also, depending on the gender of the predator
the survivor may decide or need the opposite gender in a therapist. However,
for those survivors who were victims of both female and male predator deciding
the gender of the therapist may be decided after a session with the therapist.
Whatever the choice, therapy is an excellent resource for a survivor.
However, if you can not bring yourself to seek a
therapist then you may want to start writing your thoughts down first. It is
hard opening up and letting someone else know your secret but realize holding
on to the secret is hurting you and it is another way for the predator to keep
her/his hold on you.
Healing is a slow process and is hard work but you
are worth the effort.
The listed books offer a wealth of information on
therapy, therapist and therapy techniques.
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