2. Be trustworthy and be trustful.
3. Do not place a light estimate on the art of good reading and good expression; they will yield perpetual interest.
4. Study to keep versed in world events as well as in local occurrences, but abhor gossip, and above all scandal.
5. Banish a self-conscience spirit - the source of much awkwardness - with a constant aim to make others happy - remember that it is incumbent upon gentlemen and ladies alike to be neat in habits.
6. The following is said to be a correct posture for walking: Head erect - not too rigid - chin in, shoulders back. Permit no unnecessary motion about the thighs. Do not lean over to one side in walking, standing or sitting; the practice is not only ungraceful, but it is deforming and therefore unhealthy.
7. If the hands are allowed to swing in walking, the arc should be limited, and the lady will manage them much more gracefully, if they almost touch the clothing.
8. A lady should not stand with her hands behind her. We could almost say, forget the hands except to keep them clean, including the nails; cordial and helpful. One hand may rest easily in the other. Study repose of attitude here as well as in the rest of the body.
9. Gestures are for emphasis in public speaking; do not point elsewhere, as a rule.
10. Look the person to whom you speak in the eye. Never under any circumstances wink at another or communicate with furtive looks.
11. Before introducing a gentleman to a lady, remember that she is entitled to hold you responsible for the acquaintance. The lady is the one to whom the gentleman is presented, which may be done thus: "Miss A, permit me to introduce you to my friend, Mr. B." or :Miss A, allow me to introduce Mr. B." If mutual and near friends of yours, say simply "Miss A - Mr. B."
12. A true lady will avoid familiarity in her deportment towards gentlemen. A young lady should not permit her gentlemen friends to address her by her home name, and the reverse is true. Use the title Miss and Mr. respectively.
13. Ladies should be frank and cordial toward their lady friends, never gushing.
14. A lady on meeting a gentleman with whom she has a slight acquaintance will make a medium bow - neither too decided nor too slight or stiff.
15. If a young lady desires to visit any public place where she expects to meet a gentleman acquaintance, she should have a chaperone to accompany her, a person of mature years when possible, and never a giddy girl.
16. A lady should not ask a gentleman to walk with her.
2. Clean clothing, clean skin, clean hands, including the nails, and clean, white teeth, are a requisite passport for good society.
3. A bad breath should be carefully remedied, whether it proceeds from the stomach or bad teeth.
4. To pick the nose, finger about the ears, or scratch the head or any other part of the person, in company, is decidedly vulgar.
5. When you call at any private residence, do not neglect to clean your shoes thoroughly.
6. On entering a hall or church, the gentleman should always precede the lady in walking up the aisle, or walk by herside if the aisle is broad enough.
7. A gentleman should always precede a lady upstairs, and follow her downstairs.
8. On leaving a hall or church at the close of entertainment or services, the gentleman should precede the lady.
9. A gentleman walking with a lady should carry her parcels, and never allow a lady to be burdened with anything what ever.
10. If a lady is travelling with a gentleman, simply as a friend, she should place the amount of her expenses in his hands, or insist on paying the bill herself.
11. Never carry on a private conversation in company. If secrecy is necessary, withdraw from the company.
12. Never sit with your back to another, without asking to be excused.
13. It is as unbecoming for a gentleman to sit with legs crossed as it is a lady.
14. Never thrum with your fingers, rub your hands, yawn or sigh in public.
15. Loud laughter, loud talking, or other boisterous manifestations should be checked in the society of others, especially on the street and in public places.
16. When you are asked to sing or play in company, do so without being urged, or refuse in any way that shall be final; and when music is being rendered in company, show politelness to the musician by giving attention. It is very impolite to keep up a conversation. If you do not enjoy the music, keep silent.
17. You should never decline to be intorduced to anyone or all the guests at a party to which you have been invited.
18. To take small children or dogs with you on a visit of ceremony is altogether vulgar, though in visiting familiar friends, children are not objectionable.
- For the caller who arrived first to leave first.
- To return a first call within a week and in person.
- To call promptly and in person after receiving an invitation.
- For the mother or chaperone to invite a gentleman to call.
- To call within a week after any entertainment to which one has been invited.
- You should call upon an acquaintance who has recently returned after a prolonged absence.
- It is important to make the first call upon a person of higher social position, if one is asked to do so.
- It is proper to call after an engagement has been announced, or a marriage has taken place, in the family.
- For the older residents in a city or street to call upon the newcomers in a neighborhood, is a long recognized custom.
- It is proper, after removal from one area of the city to another, to send out cards with one's new address upon them.
- To ascertain what are the ascribed hours for calling in the place where one is living, or making a visit, and adhere to those hours is a duty which must not be overlooked.
- A gentleman should ask for the lady of the house as well as the young ladies, and leave cards for her as well as the head of the household.
- Don't say pants for trousers.
- Don't say gents for gentlemen.
- Don't say female for woman.
- Don't say elegant for everything that pleases you.
- Don't say genteel for well-bred.
- Don't say ain't for isn't.
- Don't say I done it for I did it.
- Don't say he is older than me, say older than I.
- Don't say she does not see any, say she sees nothing at all.
- Don't say he calculates to get off; say he expects to get off.
- Don't say he don't, say he doesn't.
- Don't say she is some better; say she is somewhat better.
- Don't say where are they stopping; say where are they staying.
- Don't say you was, say you were.
- Don't say I say, says I; but simply say I said. (try that one three times fast)
- Don't sign your letters yours etc., but yours truly.
- Don't say lay for lie; lay expresses action; lie expresses rest.
- Don't say them bonnets, say those bonnets.
- Don't say party for person.
- Don't say it looks beautifully, but say that it looks beautiful.
under any and all circumstances.
2. FEMALE INDIFFERENCE TO MAN - There is nothing that affects the nature and pleasure of man so much as a proper and friendly recognition from a lady, and as women are more or less dependent upon man's good-will, either for gain or pleasure, it surely stands to their interest to be reasonably pleasant and courteous in his presence or society. Indifference is always a poor investment, whether in society or business.
3. GALLANTRY AND LADYISM - should be a prominent feature in the education of young people. Politeness to ladies cultivates the intellect and refines the soul, and he who can be
easy and entertaining in the society of ladies has mastered one of the greatest accomplishments. There is nothing taught in school, academy or college, that contributes so much to the happiness of man as a full development of his social and moral qualities.
4. LADYLIKE ETIQUETTE - No woman can afford to treat men rudely. A lady must have a high intellectual and moral ideal and hold herself above reproach. She must remember that the art of pleasing and entertaining gentlemen is infinitely more ornamental than laces, ribbons or diamonds. Dress and glitter may please man, but it will never benefit him.
5. CULTIVATE DEFICIENCIES - Men and women poorly sexed treat each other with more or less indifference, whereas a hearty sexuality inspires both to the right estimation of the
faculties and qualities of each other. Those who are deficient should seek society and overcome their deficiencies. While some naturalIy inherit faculties as entertainers,
others are compelIed to acquire them by cultivation.
human nature, and you will always be a favorite in the society circle.
7. WOMAN HATERS - Some men with little refinement and strong sensual feelings virtually insult and thereby disgust and repel every female they meet. They look upon woman
with an inherent vulgarity, and doubt the virtue and integrity of all alike. But it is because they are generally insincere.
