Love conceals ugliness and hate sees many faults.
2. Circumstances may compel a man not to choose a mate until late in life. Many may have parents or relatives, brothers and sisters to care for, yet family ties are cultivated, notwithstanding the home is without a wife.
3. In Christian societies the laws of marriage have greatly contributed to the health of man. Marriage in barbarious countries, where little or no marriage ceremonies are required, benefits man but little. There can be no true domestic blessedness without loyalty and love for the select and married companion. All the licentiousness and lust of libertine, whether civilized or uncivilized, bring him only unrest and premature decay.
4. A man, however, may be married and not mated, and consequently reap trouble and unhappiness. A young couple should first carefully learn each other by making the courtship a matter of business, and sufficiently long that the disposition and temper of each may be thoroughly exposed and understood.
5. First see that there is love; secondly, that there is adaptation, thirdly, that there are no physical defects; and if these conditions are properly considered, cupid will go with you.
6. The happiest place on earth is home. A loving wife and lovely children are jewels without price.
7. Reciprocated love produces a general exhilaration of the system.
8. The consummation desired by all who experience this affection, is a union of souls in a true marriage. Whatever of beauty and romance there may have been in the lover's dream, is enhanced and spiritualized in the intimate communion of married life.
9. Statistics show that married men live longer than bachelors.
10. Marriage sanctifies a home, while adultery and liberalism produce unrest, distrust and misery.
11. It is no doubt difficult for some men to fully abstain from sexual intercourse and be truly chaste in mind. The great majority of men experience frequent, strong sexual desire. Abstention is very apt to produce in their minds voluptous images and untamable desires which require an iron will to banish or control. It is, however, natural; for remove these passions and man is no longer a man. It is evident that the natural state of man is marriage; and he who avoids the state is not in harmony with the laws of his being.
2. BASHFULNESS - If a young man is very bashful, he should write his sentiments in a clear, frank manner on a neat white sheet of notepaper, enclose it in a plain white envelope and find some way to convey it to the young lady's hand.
3. THE ANSWER - If the beloved one's heart is touched, and she is in sympathy with the lover (no sexual conitation here), the answer should be frankly and unequivically given. If the negative answer is necessary, it should be done in the kindest and most sympathetic language, yet definite, positive and to the point, and the gentleman should at once withdraw his suit and continue to be friendly but not familiar.
4. SAYING "NO" FOR "YES" - If girls are foolish enough to say "no" when they mean "yes", they must suffer the consequences which often follow. A man of intelligence and self-respect will not ask a lady twice. It is begging for recognition and lowers his dignity, should he do so.
5. CONFUSION OF WORDS AND MISUNDERSTANDINGS - Sometime a man's happiness, has depended on his manner of popping the question. Many a time a girl has said "no" because the question was so worded that the affirmative did not come from the mouth naturally; and two lives that gravitated toward each other with all their inward force have been thrown suddenly apart, because the electric keys were not carefully touched.
2. PUBERTY - This is a period when childhood passes from immaturity of the sexual functions to maturity. Woman attains this state a year or two sooner than man.
3. DISEASED PARENTS - We do the race a serious wrong in multiplying the number of hereditary invalids. Whole families of children have fallen heir to lives of misery and suffering by the indiscretion and poor judgement of parents. No young man in the vigor of health should think for a moment of marrying a girl who has the impress of consumption or other disease already stamped upon her feeble constitution.
4. WHOM TO CHOOSE FOR A HUSBAND - The choice of a husband requires the coolest judgement and the most vigilant sagacity. A true union based on organic law is happiness, but let all remember that oil and water will not mix; the lion will not lie down with the lamb; nor can ill-sorted marriages be productive of ought but discord.
5. BE CAREFUL - Don't marry an intemperate man with a view of reforming him. Thousands have tried it and failed.
6. THE TRUE AND ONLY TEST - The true and only test that any man should look for in a woman is modesty in demeanor before marriage, absence both of assumed ignorance and disagreeable familiarity, and a pure and religious frame of mind.
7. MARRYING FIRST COUSINS - This is dangerous to offspring. The observation is universal, the children of married first cousins are too often idiots, insane, clump-footed, crippled, blind or variously diseased.
8. DO NOT CHOOSE ONE TOO GOOD - or too far above you, lest the inferior dissatisfying the superior, breed those discords which are worse that the trials of a single life. Don't be too particular; for you might go farther and fare worse.
9. MARRYING FOR MONEY - Those who seek only the society of those who can boast of wealth will nine times out of ten suffer disappointment. Wealth cannot manufacture true love nor money buy domestic happiness.
